Anyone have the same problem? I have 2 examples. What I mean, everything is going perfectly fine up until the day you're going to see her. Somehow the alpha attitude changes into low esteem bull.

Girl #1 wanted to meet up but sent me a "My girl friend (I met her also) is jealous, don't you have someone who could join? If not, then I will tell her to fuck off". This made it feel like she wasn't sure in meeting me, thus making me think negatively. I told her I am not scary but if she didn't want to meet up she should be honest. Even though she said she would tell her friend to fuck off... Set up new date, she flakes, no response. Luckily I didn't leave my house.

Girl #2. A solid 9 for me... We set something up over text, after I slept at her place (no sex, read my last post). That should have happened yesterday, but there was a week between setting it up and yesterday. So I sent her a confirmation text, not by asking her, but making an inside joke. I didn't get an answer. Few hours I sent another one, telling her I needed to know as traveling would take 1 hour at least and if I didn't hear anything I assumed it was not going to happen. That was so stupid, I should have done the opposite. But girl #1 and other stuff in the past made me think that way. Now I assumed she was going to flake, this shows insecurity. Damn. I forgot she was working so she sent me a message, but it was too late already, as I had to leave at this point to make it. The location was near her work. Then she sent me a "You forgot I'm working? :D". This should have been enough for me to leave, but no I was waiting for her to confirm in words. Damn. At this point, she had to wait for 45 minutes. Gave her a call. I told her we should meet up an hour later, so she can also take a shower or whatever. But that was too late as she had some important stuff for school next day. Now I think I fucked up my only chance with her. She would check if she had time for a new date.

So yeah, that sucks. Especially girl #2. She actually wanted to meet up and I fuck that up by having negative thoughts. The one girl who actually wants to meet up instead of a flaky woman.

Everything is going great, up until this point. Could anyone give me some tips? What to do in this situation? Especially because I don't want to travel 1+ hour and find out she isn't going to be there. What do you do when you're not getting a reply on time? Do you still leave the house? Do you cancel it yourself?