Let's Make a List of Steps for Improving, From Complete Anti Social to Awesome

Fudgeworth · 2015-10-04T15:34:42+00:00

2 of my 3 friends who I would go out with at night moved to different states recently so I've been forced to be more outgoing recently.

I came to the realization most people that are out at night want to talk to new people, otherwise they would have stayed at home or had dinner parties with their friends.

I've been taking a more natural approach to talking when out. If I'm at a bar on Saturday night I'll ask someone how their night or weekend is going. I'll ask them if they went anywhere else before here.

Also I've been trying to have more fun while at the bar. Instead of engaging girls in topics like work and school, I'll tell them about a new dance move I came up with last week. I showed a couple of girls that last night and within seconds they were doing the move.

I've heard people say on this subreddit that you should talk with everyone and kind of said to myself "yeah right, why would I want to talk with people I'm not interested in". I think that talking with lots of people builds your communication 'muscle'. I don't think that you can spend all week in seclusion and then flip a lightswitch where you go to talkative mode. It's much easier to be talkative on the weekend if you have been talkative all week.

nakedlazer · 2015-10-04T14:30:15+00:00

There's a Russian saying stating that "One must do good and then throw it in the water." This means that one should strive to do as much good as possible for others, but not expect anything in return from them.

Do good, but learn to accept it when somebody doesn't do you good back immediately, or at all. It's not your problem; life will ultimately reward you in its own miniscule ways.

LiberalPenguin · 2015-10-04T15:17:49+00:00

Ill add to the list:

use your everyday routine to better yourself. Lunch at work? Always sitting with your team? Why not join the sales people once?
Be the first to say hello when you pass someone, at work f.ex. This is my biggest realization lately. Why wait to see if someone says hello to you before responding? Say hello first. Show character and resolve. 99/100 they will respond with a hello themselves. the others are dandruff. Ignore.
Have fun .Always
Only you can make yourself happy. Noone else.

hugs

the_social_sage · 2015-10-04T15:30:41+00:00

This is a great idea, and great start to the list. Here are a couple additions.

Before all,

Decide in your head that you have something to offer. Realize that not every interaction will have a great result, and be at peace with that.

At the end, I would add

Learn how to and become comfortable with escalating physical touch, how to kiss a woman, and be sexually confident.

With guys, learn how to build a network of great friends that all support each other and make each other better.

primetimecanuck · 2015-10-04T15:35:17+00:00

I've been trying to do the eye contact thing for a few days now while I'm walking down the street. Once I feel comfortable enough with it. I'll move on to your second suggestion.

here's an upvote!

eathbau · 2015-10-05T02:58:33+00:00

Find hobbies that are not video games. Chances are that it will involve you meeting new people and also adds something eventful in your life.

Ajpennster · 2015-10-04T19:50:10+00:00

Saying "hi" to random people at daytime

Isn't that extremely strange? What would they respond? I find it not roo hard to approach people when I have a question (real or made up), but isn't saying "hi" to people passing by weird?

dudebroth · 2015-10-06T06:08:25+00:00

Part two would be nice. Maybe we could have a mega thread with people contributing hella ideas and then side bar it! #pipedreams

benman92 · 2015-10-04T13:38:25+00:00

Best thing is to be confident in yourself. If you know what you are worth and know what you want nothing can stop you except yourself.

Crack-a-Cola · 2015-10-05T22:33:15+00:00

Don't be afraid to say things. If you think of something to add to the conversation don't let it bounce around in your head, Just Say it. This makes you seem much more outgoing and can attract attention.

ThrowawayPUA · 2015-10-04T14:58:59+00:00

Approach girls.
Escalate.
Have fun.

Title	Let's Make a List of Steps for Improving, From Complete Anti Social to Awesome
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Date	October 4, 2015 12:29 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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