Hey guys just wanted to share my story:

A little bit of myself, I was a really introvert guy, mainly because bullying in high school, never had a LTR with any girl, failed miserably with the 2 girls I fell in love during my life because of the nice guy syndrome, which is really strong in me, I have to admit too that I missed a lot of chances with girls before because I wasn’t willing to take risks.

During the last 2 years I’ve working really hard to improve myself, and still doing it: good clothes, gym, new haircut, life experiences, travels, languages, etc. Still lacking a hobby to put a flair in my life, but I’m working on it.

Fast forward to now, I’m 22 years old and knew this girl in my job, she entered the company in March and since the first day I liked her a lot, head turning one, I didn’t have the balls to ask this girl out and decided to read Models by Manson, confidence went up as fuck and decided to be vulnerable all the time. I didn’t move a finger till the lasts days of June, when we had to work together in a project, had couple of conversations with her because of work and finally in July decided to ask her out for a drink, assuming always attraction and saying to myself “she is cheering for you to be her man”.

First date went awesome, K-closed on second date; she was really interested in me and I was really surprised with my success, but here is where my lack of experience with relationships hit me hard, I started to show neediness, seeking for validation that I was worth of having a hot girl with me with kisses, and of course have sex.

During our third week I let her know my intentions of making her my girlfriend because I liked her a lot and she admitted that she ended her last relationship of 1 year and a half in April, she was obviously just starting the breakup process, then she decided to stop dating me because she didn’t want anything and didn’t want to hurt me, I said “fuck it, I’m willing to take the risk and see what happens, it is all-in or nothing.” – She liked that.

Our relationship kept going, but it was a fucking rollercoaster, one week she was in love with me and showed emotional involvement, but the next one she was really insecure and treated me like she wanted nothing, during this time always tried to escalate but sex never happened, things got hot in various moments, but she never felt totally comfortable, I guess because I showed my neediness early on.

After 1 month dating, I discovered she had a problem, she liked to be hit by guys and gave them signals, even if she wasn’t interested, Aaaaaand I suffered from oneitis, hard, started to get really obsessive with this girl, trying to make plans every day, started to get jealous, all this stupid shit.

Well, after 2 months dating she started to lost interest and I felt it, conversations started to get forced, she started using her cellphone with me, making excuses to avoid plans, etc. As soon as I saw all these red flags, decided to end our relationship in good terms but I noticed she was angry, I guess because her ex also ended the relationship and she was like “not again!”

Now she hates me and doesn’t want to speak with me ever again because, well, rumors started in our company and she feels is my fault, arguing that we were absolutely nothing during these 2 months dating and I was stupid for thinking that we could took the things to the next level.

Oh man, I did all the mistakes with this girl, put her on a pedestal, oneitis, neediness, but at the end I feel like a new person because of the lessons learned, and at the same time feels so fucking good and empowering, I’m ready for the next girl, bring it on world!

TL; DR: Dated a really hot girl, first one in my life, made all the possible mistakes and learned from them, really proud now.

  • Be willed to take risks, just do it, is the only way to know what could happen.
  • Don’t be needy, especially if you are screaming for sex, seriously, they smell it and hungry don’t get feed.
  • Avoid oneitis at all cost, keep your life going, keep yourself busy, make her wonder about you, don’t be available all the time.
  • Keep your personal life for yourself, avoid telling people about your relationship in the same friend circle of your girl, rumors can start getting ugly.

Be grateful with life guys, if it hurts, is just trying to teach you a lesson.