Mixed reads after second date - help!

Orange11a · 2022-03-07T20:44:30+00:00

Dude you're doing just fine. Just wait it out if she never replies then good. More women in the sea

Woujo · 2022-03-08T00:33:55+00:00

Here is the thing. No matter how much she likes you, if she feels like you are relentless she will get freaked out. You should always feel like a challenge to her and like she needs to work for it. Right now she feels like she conquered you and you are going to relentlessly pursue.her. I would go quiet for a few days and then text her something random but do not ask to hang out. That will get her intrigued again.

scarred4lyfee · 2022-03-07T22:03:49+00:00

If you had two dates that ended up in sex, you should have waited a bit more to bring up meeting again. That would have given you a chance to see if she is interested enough to bring it up.

Now, all you can do is wait. Wait for a week and send her a meme saying it reminded you of her and recalibrate from there.

Billyjeanisntmylover · 2022-03-07T20:26:01+00:00

Going through this atm too. However, my prospect ( or whatever) said "we can plan for this next weekend" which she's said this before but this time she didn't give a specific date, so I plan on doing a soft next and won't hit up for another week or two.

I'll wait until she hits me or I'll just circle back n set the date - considering we both had sex with the girls, why not continue to be the man and lead/assertive w/o being needy/clingy ofc.

quantumactual · 2022-03-08T05:41:48+00:00

Man just disconnect for a bit. You did everything right. That’s the perfect last text for her to either get back to you on, or not.

Nothing you can do at this point will convince her any more for the third date, so no, you shouldn’t reach out, ask her how she’s doing, if she got your message, any of it.

Maybe if two days go by, on the third day, shoot her a text and ask her what’s up.

Despite the fact you’re having the time of your life and she’s calling out your name during sex, you have to assume she’s still dating other guys too. And you should be dating other prospects as well.

She may just be testing your strength. It’ll happen quite a bit during these preliminary dates.

Let her get back, or not. Keep doing what you do without her.

drakeinmycar · 2022-03-08T05:42:40+00:00

At least ur actually having sex lmaoo

AngeloMacon · 2022-03-07T23:18:05+00:00

I mean, not a great sign, but I guess if she's working on a Sunday she could be busy. You're in a nothing to lose situation and you like her, so send a text. Keep expectations low though.

kathruins · 2022-03-07T23:49:04+00:00

I get the confidence thing and taking charge, but I think you should have asked what time/date worked for her after she couldn't oblige your first command. no one like to be commanded 24/7. alternate with suggestions and questions.

howdatingworks · 2022-03-08T02:24:50+00:00

Major issue here: you asked her out in a sub-optimal way. Instead of first proposing a date when you don't know her schedule, ask When are you free? or When are you available to get together? to let her tell you any and all options. You're right that if she really wanted to see you she probably would've offered another day, but you didn't give her the best chance to do so. Now you need to stick to your word and wait for her to let you know like you asked. There is no other reason to contact her. If you don't hear from her, it means she didn't want you that badly and you can move on without debasing yourself by reaching out to someone who ignored you. More details on how to do this here:

https://www.howdatingworks.com/blog/how-to-ask-out-a-girl

premedchunsa · 2022-03-08T03:09:29+00:00

Honestly it seems like she’s a high status woman just looking for casual relationships. But you’re the same so stop putting all your eggs in one basket.

fairydreams333 · 2022-03-08T07:50:28+00:00

Honestly, the advice on this thread is awful. As a woman, I can tell you after I have sex with a man my guard goes up a bit as I try to navigate whether he is in this for casual sex or if he's interested in something more serious. The fact that you slept with her and then she was the one to reach out almost 2 days later isn't great imo. It would not make me feel good. Women like to feel desired/pursued. There is a way to do this without coming off as over-eager (as some of these comments seem to suggest it would be) but confident and sure of yourself. Make her feel sure of your interest in her without coming off as needy.

Outrageous_Length639 · 2022-03-16T19:22:08+00:00

You could always just ask her out man and stop overthinking it

Title	Mixed reads after second date - help!
Author	Bumblebee-Flaky
Upvotes	7
Comments	32
Date	March 7, 2022 8:10 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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