Hey everyone, I’m a 22YO guy (178 cm). About two months ago I matched with a girl on a dating app, and honestly she was the cutest and most interesting girl I’ve dated so far.From the very beginning, the communication felt different. Usually I feel like I have to “pull words out” of people during the chatting stage, but with her it was easy and natural. She was open, talkative, gave compliments early on, and seemed genuinely interested. Within an hour we moved to Instagram. We had a lot in common: music, movies we grew up with, video games, similar ways of thinking. Everything felt almost too good to be true. We had our first date about a week later. She told me it was her first date ever, so I tried to be very respectful and calm. We met in a romantic spot a small closed garden with lots of flowers and a fountain. We talked outside first, then went to a café. The vibe was great: laughing, good conversation, and when I made her laugh she would grab my shoulder, which felt like a positive sign. Overall, it was a really good date. On second date which was about two weeks after first one ( yes she said she had really bad schedule) we went to a bowling, as she never played it before, we had a great time, then we had an agreement that either we would go to a tea house or caffe, when we finished bowling I told her lets go to a tea house ( as at that moment I found out that she really liked tea), because there was no free table I came up with an idea to brought her to a fancy restaurant that was like 2 mins walk from there. we ordered some food had a conversation, I knew she loved one of tv series and after googling it appeared there was a book based on which that series was filmed, I bought her that and gifted her in the restaurant. she hugged me said a lot of thanks etc. when we the date was going to the end and we were ordering taxis, she randomly grabbed my hand and hold it to her chest ( honestly I wanted to do it way before but because there was no natural moment for it I hesitated , yess I have lack of ballz ) as ive said that she had really hard schedule I told her, hey listen I really like hanging out with you, just tell me when you will have some time after practicing, hour or two and ofc if you will want to just tell me and i will come to you, she said dont you have such schedule like me? I told her listen for you I will always find some time. I think from the second date she started replying really late, once or twice she even replied on second day. We had another date later (a movie), but it was shorter and more reserved, she arrived at cinema. My plan was to grab a car and mb before or after movie we would have a some kind of a romantic drive, where I would kiss her, BUT when I told her that I will drive her from home to a cinema she said hey thanks but I live really close to a cinema , I said hmm okay listen in that case what about we hang out after movie? regarding to her reply to that I understood that she either didnt want to or didnt hav time for it coz of strict family (when the movie would ended it would be something around 10:30 pm ) . At a move there was a moment where she teared up during a scene, and I hesitated and didn’t hug her something I later overthought.After that, communication became inconsistent. Eventually she told me that her life and schedule is too overloaded, and she doesn’t feel she has enough time for a relationship. She said she’s open to continuing a friendly relationship and that she respects me a lot. I replied honestly and respectfully, saying that I appreciate her openness, but a purely friendly relationship isn’t enough for me when I’m romantically interested. I said I’d step back, thanked her for the good moments, and told her she could reach out if anything changes. Since then, she hasn’t directly responded to that message but she does occasionally reply to my Instagram stories in a light, friendly way (holiday wishes, comments on memes etc). So now I’m confused:Is this just a soft rejection with leftover friendliness? Is she genuinely unsure and keeping some connection? Or am I overanalyzing normal post-dating behavior?
I’m not chasing her or double-texting, but the mixed signals are hard to read. I’d appreciate honest outside perspectives.
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