My AA is too high to approach alone.

eviiil · 2016-01-01T22:29:41+00:00

What are other people going to protect you from?

dysrhythmic · 2016-01-02T00:18:05+00:00

IMO rejections might still bother you because it's not an easy thing to unlearn if you don't have the right mindset. I think you should try approaching alone but doing something easier if possible. Does making a compliment scare you? Maybe an indirect approach? Maybe something really fucking easy, approaching whomever to warm up? I know how it feels when your legs just don't move or even go the other way. If you already can approach with people then going out with them more might not really help you when you're alone.

edit: BTW what kind of meetup?

2016-01-02T00:55:57+00:00

Courage doesnt come without fear. Feel your anxiety when it happens rationalise it and chose to act despite it

Chrisloop · 2016-01-02T02:24:35+00:00

I had this issue before too. I would need my friends there to say "I dare you to talk to that girl" and I would do it. I would never do it on my own. After some time I figured out it was the awkwardness of post rejection that I was afraid of rather than the actual rejection. When I was with my friends I would just laugh about it with them, kind of similar to your situation. I had to learn to get rid of that fear and feeling I would get. Eventually I gave myself therapy and I told myself "I WANT an awkward situation, I'm expecting it." Terrible mindset for approach but I used it temporarily to jump over my hurdle that was stopping me from progressing. Repeating this therapy over time allowed me to become numb to it. It was a painful process, but you have to go through it. The last thing you want is to be dependant on something for game. It's like depending on your cologne to attract girls.

Zalkota · 2016-01-02T02:26:26+00:00

No, go by yourself. Go in with the mindset that you want to fail and that you just want to see how it goes. I ended up seeing 2 girls from my school at the mall that I had seen before (I go to a really small school). I made an almost fool of myself, i can't remember if i even gave them my name... But, I did it and the 2nd time wasn't to bad. You won't see her again

omziraal · 2016-01-02T05:31:35+00:00

Alcohol. Then slightly less alcohol. Then no alcohol. Also, gym.

Title	My AA is too high to approach alone.
Author	omziraal
Upvotes	3
Comments	9
Date	January 1, 2016 8:04 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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