My first rejection

projectm35 · 2014-09-16T02:50:50+00:00

Here's the good news: that's about as bad as it gets. It's all uphill from here man. Take a good look in the mirror. Are you missing any limbs? Did she cut your balls off?

What actually happened is nothing. Your ego got temporarily bruised, but that's more a function of you putting her on a pedestal than anything about yourself. Tomorrow she won't remember you. A week from now you won't remember her and the bruise will be healed.

That's what's so wonderful about this. Nothing bad happens when you fail. And sooner or later you won't fail...

insidescoop84 · 2014-09-16T04:10:46+00:00

I wanna make a sports analogy for you. Michael Jordan is one of the most famous basketball players. Even if you don't really know basketball, you know Michael Jordan. Michael Jordan's career shooting percentage is about 50%. A lot of other well known superstars in the league have similar percentages. The best of the best in the NBA have failed at around HALF of their attempts.

You're going to fail, you're going to get rejected. It's a fact of life. Sometimes it's going to make you feel bad, but remember that everyone has been rejected, and as my brother says "sometimes when you lose, you win" you don't even know if she would've been worth your time

sixtwentyseven · 2014-09-16T02:46:55+00:00

something to keep in mind is that pretty much everyone wants attention, and you're giving it to them. Sure, you got rejected, but probability is on your side that a straight up rejection is rare and this likely won't happen again for a while, most girls will bathe in the attention for at least a little bit. So go back out there and say hi to the hot ladies cause in 80 years you'll be dead and it won't matter if you made a fool of yourself anyways!

p.s. i'm not a pro at seduction or pep talks, the latter might be obvious sorry

betarex · 2014-09-16T03:44:45+00:00

Try again and don't take it so personal. It's a numbers game, so best to get back into it.

4juice · 2014-09-16T11:22:32+00:00

For every successful approach, you came after 3 rejections. That is my mantra. I am always looking for rejections because i know the success will come later.

ofcrazed · 2014-09-16T15:45:43+00:00

The first time I went to a club after a big break up, I says hi to a girl who told me to Fuck off. I walked away and started tearing up at the bar. So at least feel better knowing you haven't had the worst approach in the world Hahaha

buttbutts · 2014-09-16T16:43:59+00:00

Way I see it, she did you a favor by revealing just how ugly her personality is before you put any effort into the relationship. She sounds like a shitty person who I wouldn't want anything to do with anyways. Doesn't matter how hot her body was, she's an ugly person.

Reject her in your mind.

DayV63 · 2014-09-16T17:15:37+00:00

Maybe I'm not the best person to answer this question because I don't go out often but something I read in the 4 hour workweek by Tim ferris helped me put seemingly terrible things like this into perspective for me. On a scale of 1-10 how permanent was the damage done by that rejection? Maybe moreso emotional but nobody is going to remember you let alone you getting rejected like that secondly props to you for actually approaching especially a hot girl that shits hard and most guys won't do that shit. Really you should be glad you got blown out like that because that's about as bad as it gets by all accounts so you can only go up from here!

sharkacolypse · 2014-09-16T17:38:10+00:00

You may feel defeated but you didn't fail.

Sometimes you'll just get written off, and it doesn't necessarily mean anything about you. There are countless factors that go into whether or not someone will be receptive to you that you can't control, and far fewer that you can.

wokeupinsf · 2014-09-16T05:01:14+00:00

dude... she rejected your approach... but she didn't reject you. That's a big difference... cuz how can she know anything substantial about you from such a brief interaction?

Internalize that!

Title	My first rejection
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	12
Comments	13
Date	September 16, 2014 1:43 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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