My standards are waaaay too high!

ethical_pa · 2018-02-01T20:06:44+00:00

This could be a defense mechanism. If your standards are so high then you can't be rejected. Safe.

2018-02-01T19:53:39+00:00

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2018-02-01T17:25:09+00:00

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circlhat · 2018-02-01T20:41:04+00:00

I doubt your standards are too high, many men standards are to low, models aren't that cute, actresses look like men to me. Society doesn't get to dictate what is beautiful, this is why men have ED problems , we are suppose to find most women attractive when in reality they aren't.

Find out what you like and go for that

frankduxing · 2018-02-01T17:44:16+00:00

Something is probably conditioning you to think you deserve or are entitled to such a women. Ask yourself "How would she rate me?"

There is nothing wrong with being objective but if it bleeds into your expectations its a real problem.

thetahill · 2018-02-01T21:47:45+00:00

Some insecure guys will find flaws in women as a defense mechanism because they can't get them.

However, if you rule that out, it's probably a good thing you are judging women's looks this way, because you're actually being realistic.

Not every actress or model is objectively cute. Same with cheerleaders and other types of women most people automatically assume must be pretty. If you're judging them based on what you actually like, that's a good point to be at, because you've eliminated desperation from the equation.

I'm to that point. I can take or leave most women in terms of looks. I think these guys who swipe right on every woman are crazy. I swipe right on maybe 1/3. But, when I do match, the dates go well and I'm interested.

EDIT: I will add that if you have a general issue of not finding any woman attractive, or being barely motivated to pursue the women you do find attractive, then you may have low T-levels. This is a lack of drive and not a case of simply having standards.

TheXXL · 2018-02-02T06:29:56+00:00

Have you ever thought about the fact that not every person is attractive to everyone? I see a lot of those supposedly hot models and think "why is everyone so thirsty about this mediocre looking woman?" it's called having a different taste. In my friends circle there are many different tastes, and funny enough, mostly the younger guys look for the same superficial beauty standards which I find boring.

Attraction is a result of mainly mental processes. The younger you are, the more likely you are fooled by the idea of someone instead of the physical reality. Look at the majority of low level Instagram models. They are not attractive because they are actually attractive, but they are perceived as being attractive because they must be something special, they are showing off a fraction of their lives that is actually attractive as opposed to a he majority of unattractive stuff that their lives actually are. Same goes for celebrities, it's basically a very sophisticated Form of manipulation to make them look perfect even though they are shitting the same turd as everyone.

DR_JDUBZ · 2018-02-03T14:53:41+00:00

Explain to me why the fuck it is such a great idea to try and have a serious relationship with someone you are not physically attracted to? I would probably go out on a first date with anyone (anyone who actually has 2 x chromosomes, if you have a Y you are sol), however unless I "click with you" or am actually physically attracted to you, the first date is the last date.

drcall2 · 2018-02-01T19:16:25+00:00

Maybe you are like me. I looove really cute girls with glasses. Their look is so charming. But when i see a typical hot girl i do not start daydreaming like most guys. But when i see a girl with glasses that mange to pull it of. That is what i love. And btw really cute girls with glasses are the most likley to have the personalty i love

2018-02-02T02:18:15+00:00

You have self-esteem issues.

Title	My standards are waaaay too high!
Author	zenplus
Upvotes	0
Comments	32
Date	February 1, 2018 5:20 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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