Need advice on how fix a text convo that's gotten stale

savvyxxl · 2018-03-26T21:59:32+00:00

idk if this works for everybody but i started dating this girl and in order to better get to know her i found an article that was like 100 questions to ask someone you just started dating or something and they were super random but sparked some of the best conversations i've ever had while dating someone.. she honestly was an amazing conversationalist so we would barely get through a couple questions. When we discussed our dream house we went off on how we both liked the cabin style of houses that have a shitload of windows that overlook a forest/lake ... i think it was 100 questions to get to know somebody or something like that

LingeringGnome · 2018-03-26T22:12:08+00:00

So I texted her for a day with the generic shit.

Mistake. put down the fucking phone.

It's gotten stale, she really doesn't give me much to go on. I still think it's too early to ask her out on a date (I've blown good convos on tinder and whatnot by being too forward with this)

You got it completely fucking backwards. You go for the ask-out three texts in, no more.

Act like a dominant, confident man who goes for what he wants instead of this bullshit nice guy routine you're doing now.

I'm drawing a blank on how to restart an interesting conversation so I'm looking for some help.

You: Hey Sarah, let's grab a drink at Bar X, 9 pm on Tuesday.

Her: Okay

Then you put down your phone and go to work, or the gym, or a hike, or read.

She thinks you're good looking. So tell me...how in the fuck are you operating from a position of strength when she can't see your face? Set a meet. Talk to her there.

mouse__rat1 · 2018-03-26T20:32:12+00:00

Try to get to know her a bit, ask about her hobbies, job, school, etc. I've found this video to be helpful for keeping conversations going: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vU-ibdHkz4Y

2018-03-26T22:34:33+00:00

say do you want to get to know each other better in person?

TheXXL · 2018-03-27T02:59:40+00:00

she thought I was good looking

Don’t you see the irony? Texting doesn't equal seeing. If she was looking for a girlfriend to text she would have asked a girl.

efadrine · 2018-03-27T07:19:20+00:00

Don't text much.

Just do it to fucking set up the meet.

Bam, done.

TruthSFree · 2018-03-27T14:08:18+00:00

Ask her out, and here is why, she is either interested in seeing you or is not, and it takes two people to let a convo go stale. Once a convo is stale you literally have nothing to lose by asking her out. Because the next step was to move on anyway. Put another way rewarming an old stale left over convo, is moving backwards in set. Move forward! This blog applies. Especially 2. https://www.truthrelationshipmanagement.com/new-blog/2018/3/15/online-dating-guiding-principles-or-guiding-principles-top-10?rq=ask

Title	Need advice on how fix a text convo that's gotten stale
Author	TotallyWorrie
Upvotes	6
Comments	19
Date	March 26, 2018 8:27 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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