Need Help Building Inner Game

Papa_Musk · 2021-09-23T07:04:43+00:00

Stop using online dating it's 13 guys for every girl and a waste of time
Embrace the bald
Work through your issues with a therapist
Go out to social activities and try to meet women with common interests to you
Accept that you are not perfect and neither is any woman, learn to accept your "flaws"
Continue your journey of self improvement but for yourself and for your health not for women, go to the gym for yourself for your health, read to learn more, dress better so you feel good not so other people notice you, compliment people because you are genuine not so they will be attracted to you etc.

If you want a healthy relationship you need to be mentally healthy or you will attract women who aren't healthy. It's not too late unless you are dead. Chill out, work on your mental health and keep improving and putting one foot in front of the other you can get there. You are willing to try and you realize there is a problem you are already halfway there.

Chicagoj1563 · 2021-09-23T10:38:50+00:00

I'm older than you and most of what I know has been passed down from other more experienced PUAs. But, here is my 2 cents.

First, your doing the right thing by getting in shape. It will help a ton with your confidence. Getting your look down should go a long way in helping your push through getting out there and approaching if that is what you want to do. Also consider getting proper fitted clothes. There are different ways to do that, but just get clothes that fit well.

If all you want is your next girlfriend, then you may not have to become great at game. You just have to take action and approach. Get good at the beginning stages and play the numbers game. See what happens.

Where will you meet women? Do you currently see women in your day to day routine that you would like to approach? If not, then you may need to think about where you will start going so you can find women to approach.

Next you need to start approaching. Your basically trying to learn how to open conversations with strangers. There are mindsets that will help with inner game. But, to improve your innner game you need to push your comfort zone and learn from each interaction. Essentially, you need to try things out and see what works for you. But, view each approach as a positive event with no downside. You either succeed or your learn. No matter how an interaction goes, you can learn from it so everything is positive. Focus on the process of what you are trying to do, not dwell on socially conditioned mindsets where you can be stuck in your head with negative thoughts. Again, there is no downside. You win or you learn. That's it. These are inner game principals and may take some work to get down. But, when you find yourself thinking negative, try to focus on the process and how awesome it is what you are doing and learning. Then your inner game can improve.

There is no magic words you can say to open, just try something out. Field test it. Learn from each interaction and experiment. Make adjustments, try something else.

Once you can open without much hesitation, then you want to attract the girl. Just keep in mind women are attracted to body language and sub-communications, and you want emotional engagements. Not boring logical conversations. Make it fun if you can. Be bold and unfiltered if you can.

Once you have a girl attracted, then its just building a connection. Be normal, but not needy.

What is the best most attractive version of you? Well, thats why you do this stuff, so you can find out. Your inner game will develop as you take action. So, go field test things. Adapt the right mindsets so you can stay in the game and improve. And if you struggle and feel like your hitting a wall, find wings or get coaching.

jokertnt · 2021-09-23T06:06:28+00:00

So what exactly your problem?

Alive-Doughnut2345 · 2021-09-23T07:11:49+00:00

Good job for taking action! I don’t really have advice to give as I’m 28 and in the same boat but you go! Your mind is in the right place just keep at it.

boycott-mondays · 2021-09-23T14:15:19+00:00

I know bald men, who sleep with multiple girls. One of my bald friends is a bartender, and he goes to bars and confidently flirts with girls. And he is very very successful

It's not about how you look, you just got to get good at being social. And the best way to be social is to practice

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-09-23T09:30:36+00:00

Let me be honest with you. Browsed your Reddit profile and you come across as a bit of a nerd. I mean action figures dude? Common, time to grow up and become a man.

Shave your damn head and start challenging your fears. Your biggest fear will be around fear of loss. Fear that you may say something that will drive a woman away, that you will do something that may make her not want to go out with you or if you are out on a date something that will not make her want a second date.

This fear will screw up all of your interactions even before you approach them. To grow as a man, you need to learn to stand up for yourself and build boundaries that you will defend vigorously. Become immune to manipulation and drama. Don't tolerate disrespect. Start small. But the more you donor the more you build yourself respect snd confidence.

Old_Pattern_2595 · 2021-09-23T11:33:37+00:00

Game isn’t real…… it’s a delusional concept based on the sole purpose of selling a product. You think cavemen had game? What about the Native Americans? Game isn’t real. Either the girl likes you and will entertain whatever bullshit spews from your mouth or she won’t like you. That’s it.

Pain_Tough · 2021-09-23T14:20:36+00:00

I read ‘dating for dummies’ after my divorce and really helped.

TheSunshineMan · 2021-09-24T03:19:23+00:00

Shave your head.

Delete all dating apps.

Go out and talk to women in real life.

Title	Need Help Building Inner Game
Author	Fragmented79
Upvotes	5
Comments	20
Date	September 23, 2021 6:00 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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