Need some advice to get back into the game

TrueCalifornia · 2013-01-31T21:47:29+00:00

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qhmcJ7Zg5ko

avonv · 2013-01-31T23:56:18+00:00

clearly it was a mistake to say "thanks" and keep walking. by doing so, that lumped you in with every other guy she has met in life who just stuck his tail between his legs in some situation. but at least you know this because you went back to them. anyways, when someone gives you an invitation to converse with them (by either talking to you or listening to you), take it and run with it unless you see no upside in talking to them. sometimes it's not even about the words you say but how you say them and demonstrate your confidence and composure.

for instance, you could have gone the "job interview route", asked her a bunch of questions to figure out a ton of facts about her, and hopefully after all of that you made some sort of impression on her (or she was just desperate from the start so you didn't have to do much of anything really). but those questions will be there to ask at other times. if she is trying to figure out if she thinks you're interesting and she's on the fence, then those questions won't help her conclusion about you. remember that as long as you say things confidently and don't act like you're the same as every other guy, you'll probably come off as more interesting than the rest of them, regardless as to what you say.

when she said "he has beautiful eyes" you could have replied with "was i supposed to hear that? are you hitting on me? is that the only attractive thing about me?" which is great because if she teasingly says "yep, that's the only good thing about you" you can say "well, if i had to pick the one good thing about you, it would be ... (dramatically pause, stare at her boobs for 3 seconds, then say) your smile". Then say, "just kidding, that was a joke, you do have a nice smile but... you're cute so i'd be lying if i said that was the only good thing" and so on.

Or, if she doesn't tease you and says "we just thought you were cute" you can go the whole "interesting. most girls are stingy with their compliments. that's pretty badass to give out compliments like that for free... i didn't even have to buy you anything. i like you two" and so on.

the point is - simplify it for yourself and focus on the subject at hand, and see what happens when you go down that path. change it up when you have to in order to keep the convo fresh and vibrant.

robot_army_mutiny · 2013-02-01T15:58:01+00:00

You are just out of practice. Remember the basic strategy is: open with something interesting, body rock and false time constraint, demonstrate high value, qualify her. That's attraction in a nutshell.

I'm a big fan of canned material. Especially when just getting into or back into the game. Your brain tends to freeze up, so it's really hard to just come up with good material on the spot. So memorize some good openers and DHV stories. Use them over and over, so that you can concentrate on delivery, body language, congruity, etc.

Willem20 · 2013-01-31T23:17:20+00:00

Okay, I'll put it in a different way: If you want to solve a math problem, you need numbers, right? Without them you can't solve the problem.

You already had 1 number, your eyes. (You should feel lucky btw) Just ask her: Why ? Why do you think I have nice eyes? Or why are you doing well? Why did you order a bloody mary? Why did you move to that part if town? In crowded and loud bars (or when she's drunk, had that one recently..) this is harder, but in a more relaxed place this works well.

Title	Need some advice to get back into the game
Author	LeSpatula
Upvotes	8
Comments	9
Date	January 31, 2013 8:33 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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