Need some advice -- what would you do in this situation?

pua_inception · 2011-09-21T16:37:50+00:00

Text her

"You never write, you never call. The kids want to know when mum is coming home. What am I supposed to tell them?" (Source: another Sedditor - forgot who).

It's playful & fun.

In all seriousness, you have been persistent enough in trying to get in contact with her. This is a two way street. She needs to reciprocate the effort and if she doesn't, then you deserve better. She's suppose to feel like it's HER lucky day that you chose to meet her.

I'd move on with this girl.

For future girls, you may want to see how much attraction you are building with a girl. I think if you do not build enough attraction in the approach then there is a high probability she will flake sooner or later. Have a look at your body language, etc. I'm sure if you approached a girl with a confident vibe, you'd give her butterflies, make her legs feel jelly, etc and THAT will make her much more attracted to you. And then there is no reason she would want to flake.

returnofdoom · 2011-09-21T15:05:33+00:00

Being distant definitely won't help your cause at all. She sees this and thinks you're reacting like a chump, or that you're desperate and/or clingy. You should have acted cool about it, and not sent more than one text if she didn't respond. It sounds like you missed your window. I could be wrong about that, but you don't stand to gain anything by being aloof... if anything, she will think you're being childish. Big turnoff.

2011-09-21T14:20:11+00:00

Just plan something and get together. Re-establish the connection you had on the dates.

WolfInTheField · 2011-09-21T15:19:04+00:00

1) In what environment did this happen?

2) You're getting too caught up. Sitting and simmering don't help (so good job asking for advice :) ). You could directly ask her what went wrong, and tell her not to give you crap. Chances are you won't be albe to salvage much of it after that (though you might!) but you could learn how to avoid this in the future.

3) You're getting too caught up pt. 2- Don't catch oneitis here, for god's sake. If it doesn't work out, NEXT the lady. If it don't work it don't work.

SEDDITSCRUB · 2011-09-22T01:54:01+00:00

Ok OP - We are in the same boat here. I'm not going to thread hi-jack just going to simply relate my story to you and drop some advice - share some thoughts. Because I KNOW where I fucked up; why I fucked up, but did it anyways.

Met a HB7 a few weeks ago and ended up going to a party with her after. K-closed the first night. She was too effed up to drive so I allowed her and someone else to crash at my house. She was obviously impressed because where I live it is not uncommon for people my age to still live with thier parents (generation Y here). She gets my number ( I didn't take hers) and texts me next night saying that she wants me to save her number.

Fast forward last friday night as I'm leavin' the gym realised she shot me a text. She asks what I'm doing; I tell her I had made plans with a group of friends already and that she can come. My exact words, "You can Tag". We meet up at the bars around here and by then I've already been drinking (it took her forever to get dolled up but she looked great... HB 7.5). This is where I fucked up, instead of chillin' out I'm doing shots with the band (who I'm friends with) and getting us drinks on the house.

Later she drives us to a friends house where we proceed to drink some wine and start hooking up. Lots of kissing, I escalate and get in her panties on my boy's couch just finger blassting the shit out of her goose. I was so wasted I couldn't get it up so I just said fuck it and kept blasting her doing alot of G-spot and clitoral stimulation, from what I remember she got EXTREMELY WET and came several times, I'm still makin' out with her the whole time working it like some sick fuck drunk ME GUSTA meme face. I'm very intoxicated at this point and she is cumming loudly (my friend is next to us on another couch pretending to sleep i think). I black out at this point and wake up to her comming out the bathroom asking me if we're ready to go.

I HAD FORGOTTEN SHE DROVE! FUCK! I'm a drunk mess. as we're driving back I get the strong urge to throw up. I finaly get her to stop the car telling her I wanted coffee from a side shop and run into the alley and hurl everywhere out of sight. And proceed with the shambling walk of shame to my whip.

SO - I end up sending her not one, not two, but three texts and she doesn't reply until fucking 5 days after asking me to help her find her friends key that had got lost 2 weeks ago at the party I K-closed at.

TL,DR - K-closed a girl first night we met, got number after. Got call week later, got way too drunk after the set got too drunk to fuck so i just fingered her like a creepy drunk fetishist wierdo with some g-spot shit i learned on some online tape got her dripping wet and got her to cum alot. ran out of her car next day and puked behind and alley.

My solutions and advice: Q - Should you care? NO. Plenty of fish in the sea and geese in the sky bro. Q - Should you get to drunk trying to F-close? FUCK NO!! And if you do don't black out, cus people act like idiots when they black out. Q- The text situation - ACT like nothing is wrong. Carry yourself as though there's no regret. If she does not reply after the first text, STOP TEXTING NEVER SAY YOU'RE SORRY OR APOLOGIZE! EVER. Do I regret getting so drunk? YES. Will I ever admit it? NO. I plucked dat pussy like a fucking Stratovarius Vivaldi Concerto. You are in charge. Q- Is this salvageable? In my case No. I acted wrong, probably turned her waaaay off and she thinks I'm a drunk sloppy kisser with some fingering fetish; then running behind a building the next morning and texting 3 FUCKING TIMES. In your case - YES

You can salvage it. Stay in charge. Be seen with other girls. Don't get oneitus, don't let it mess with your INNER GAME. create abundance.

TL,DR - Learn from my mistakes, learn from your's, learn from rejection, move on, grow stronger, DONT EVER GET TOO DRUNK, play it cool - go after other broads. If you get no reply don't text back. Why? Because you are too busy going after other fine HBs to realy care about one lil' sardine.

This is all. Keep your head up dude. Love ya.

sixxis · 2011-09-21T22:27:46+00:00

Forget this bitch, say hi to another one

Milvolarsum · 2011-09-21T18:14:13+00:00

I guess it´s best to move on and to forget. If you don´t want to you´re clinging to things like:"Maybe she didn´t look at her phone." and you assume that you still have a chance. Don´t do that! Man, believe me it´s much better to meet new girls instead of running after one women that didn´t even give a response. You will get a lot experience, maybe another girls you like. And lastly, if you still only want her, better chances on the second try!

whatwhywhy · 2011-09-21T15:15:23+00:00

why dont you just Text her and her Why?

Title	Need some advice -- what would you do in this situation?
Author	mattattaque
Upvotes	13
Comments	10
Date	September 21, 2011 1:56 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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