Neediness Kills Attraction

Sawhung · 2020-12-11T07:21:30+00:00

I’d say this isn’t that accurate. Neediness works in specific cases when applied to stereotypical scenarios. I know this because over the years I’ve become a stereotype so there’s expectations of the role for me to be needy at times. The important part is ‘when’ to be needy.

Most cases, for people who don’t understand neediness is a real thing, but in context should be broken down more. Often how people throw around that term neediness just indicates how many people are just labeling everything under bad and trying to forget it. Neediness is a specific notion to a relationship, usually indicate an imbalance. Think about where it falls into life scenarios where neediness is driving the story esp in movies / novels. Neediness is a survival tool, a way to call for help.

Anyways. Just saying I disagree with these reasons why. People follow like sheep when it comes to dating advice. Esp when you’re new, you don’t know what these terms actually means. The word neediness, there are needs, and in certain parts of life there are times where being needy is important. When applied to dating most people just get lazy and just pile things in terms of good or bad and don’t understand why because they’ve never looked at their emotional pallets to see what’s going on

2020-12-11T09:31:40+00:00

I dont think you know what needy means. You misuse it in this a few times. In fact the whole thing.

keepturning1 · 2020-12-11T08:46:59+00:00

Making eye contact with everybody you walk past is as premeditated and therefore needy as fuck as you can get. Someone who is not needy is in their own world not thinking about everyone around them unless someone worthwhile catches their attention.

2020-12-11T08:35:20+00:00

I think you're misplacing the word needy with not bold/confident.

You don't need to look everyone in the eyes; unless you have business or something else with them.

Otherwise, great points.

Juan_Water · 2020-12-11T04:13:07+00:00

Damn thanks man! Good advice🤙🏻

Tyrion69Lannister · 2020-12-11T09:05:24+00:00

I've always hated the "walk this way" kinds of advice. Most people who follow these just look like they're compensating for something. Imagine being so insecure and in need of validation that you micromanage your walk to give a false impression to others who might not even know you exist. Even if these people are hiding it well, just walking however you wanna walk because you don't give a fuck what other people think is a better mindset to have.

Evol_Etah · 2020-12-11T08:43:25+00:00

Adding on For tip1 and 2. I learnt from YouTube Teachingmen'sfashion that the speed should like like the speed of honey pouring out of the jar.

It's coming. Not too slow not too fast. And everything is damn. I use that advice for my pace in walking, talking and when moving my hands for stuff.

Takes a bit of practice to consistently get that pace right and when to speed up a bit (like picking a pencil or something) and mixing it with your vibe of relaxing.

alidany00 · 2020-12-11T07:29:24+00:00

More ans easy tips like this.

Medyou92 · 2020-12-11T10:24:30+00:00

Trying to act tough and making someone think you’re too independent to need them is a turn off too. When people are too busy thinking “ I better not do this don’t want to appear desperate “ follow the three day no call rule is all BS and played out, they’re busy doing it not because that’s how they are but more Like they want to impress someone and want them to think you’re different.

Mysterious-Canary842 · 2020-12-11T11:03:56+00:00

Making eye contact with everyone you walk past is low-key some serial killer shit. I hate being stared at by strangers. Make eye contact when engaging in a conversation not like you’re plotting to find your next victim

yashtalrejalife · 2020-12-11T11:36:04+00:00

Neediness automatically manifests in form of tonality and subtle body language

ginandtang · 2020-12-11T11:55:46+00:00

Slow voice down but don't lose energy or attention. Get excited and encourage excitement but finish the excitement with a conclusion and smooth transition to another topic to avoid akward moments. Always keep and eye out for the opportunity to attach your women's pleasant thoughts, emotions and experiences to YOU! That way you don't have to do anything but enjoy each other's company and she will be stimulated and joyful.

Title	Neediness Kills Attraction
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Upvotes	256
Comments	19
Date	December 11, 2020 3:39 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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