No one values me. Im invisible.

One_Insanity · 2018-09-22T10:54:28+00:00

Well the problem here isn't how others perceive you. It's how you perceive yourself. It'll be much easier for you to get anything in life if you feel awesome about yourself. The opposite is somehow even truer. Build a foundation of good habits first. Keep it simple. Don't overthink things. And focus on yourself. I really get tired of being a broken record but I suppose I gotta.

This sort of thing requires a lot of work but these are the things that have helped me thus far on my journey to make me feel good. And not just good but fantastic.

First - Cold showers. I cannot stress this enough. I will never shut up about it. Cold showers are fantastic. It's the epitome of "Pain will purify you" and it sure as hell will. Get in the shower and turn that bitch to cold. Don't be a pussy, don't be a wimp and go lukewarm or sort of chilly. Go all in. Roar, scream, yell or whatever. Don't just stand there going ddddddddd. Let it out. People like you have bottled up emotions without a single shred of a doubt. So let them out. It'll wake you up from your proverbial slumber.
Second - Quit all porn and all masturbation. This is another I won't shut up about. And I'll fight any dick tugging shithead that says otherwise. Porn is bad. End of story. Want proof? Here you go. Oh shit 1 hour? Yeah one hour. If you can't take one hour out of your day to understand why you have to kill a terrible habit then you're a retard. Masturbation is also pathetic. Don't listen to any of those retards spewing stupid shit like "Exploring your body is healthy". You can do all of that exploring on a weekend and you'll realize that the only thing you discovered is that you tug on your dick and stuff comes out after you do it enough. Your brain doesn't know you're busting nuts in a sock. Socks, tissues or yourself might as well be pussy to your brain. So tell me, why would an organism bother trying to survive or get better if it's always busting nuts in pussy, according to its brain that is. Your biological directive is done but you know that's not what's happening. And to top it all off, sex is the greatest stimulus in the world. So if you're always busting nuts the world just becomes uninteresting, dull and colorless.
Third - Hard physical exercise. Weight lifting is what I do but you can find your own if you wish. Aside from making you healthier, stronger and better looking. You will simply feel better. I've had days where I did not want to hit the Iron Sanctuary but I never left it with regret in my breast. Lift hard. Don't look at asses, don't look at your phone. Focus on the iron. While you're there be open and interact with people. Be patient but always lift hard.
Fourth - This ties in with the above. Nutrition. People underestimate this to a ridiculous extent. Your life force is the food you put in your body. So if you're living on garbage you will feel like garbage. Eat clean and eat well. I'm not saying cut out absolutely all sugar and all processed foods. You can have a pizza or some ice cream once in a while. Just don't make that a baseline. Don't eat at fast food joints. Buy your own food and cook it for yourself. I'm not a proponent of keto or paleo diets or any of that. The combo of pasta and pork along with the combo of eggs and bread are my baselines. Other things include rice, beef, buckwheat and cheese. Cucumbers, tomatoes, green bell peppers and cabbage are my favorite veggies. I do cheat on the daily with a bowl of chocolate cereal every morning. But that's about it. Another thing is some people, especially those experiencing depression or symptoms of it, eat too little. I'm sure you've had this. Times where you don't want to do anything. You're hungry but you don't even want to cook or do anything. In other words you're not fueling your body so you're stuck in a low energy, low mood state. Eat motherfucker.
Fifth - Meditation. This is one I'm not actively doing but I can recommend it as I have done it in the past. This is another good exercise of self control and discipline. Sit on the floor. Cross your legs and just breathe. Do diaphragmatic breathing. In through the nose and out through the mouth. Just breathe and think about nothing. Every time your mind wanders, grab it and pull it back into the empty twisting nether. Start with 5 minutes and crawl your way up to 10. If you have time make it 15 but any further and you're just sitting there existing. Meditation is a good tool to gain a better grasp of your thoughts and emotions.
Sixth - Limit your alcohol and drugs. I smoke hash and drink. But I like to keep them as little treats towards the end of the day. And I do them very sparsely. Most of my time is spent absolutely sober but I like their effects since they unlock a part of me I can't usually access. And if I consume them with the right mindset they just improve my mood.
Seventh - Do the little things and value them. Make your bed every morning. Do the dishes. Do your laundry. Say hi and smile to the receptionist at the gym or other people there. Your bus driver. The person sitting next to you on the bus. Appreciate smaller things because when you appreciate them it's much easier to be happy even though nothing massive happened. Yesterday I was bouncing around while blasting bloodhound gang and doing the dishes. I felt glorious. What happened yesterday? Nothing that didn't happen the day before.
Eight - Open up to yourself. And become aware of your thoughts. The best way is to say them out loud. This comes to a thing that's become regular for me. I leave my house at night and go to a nice spot with a good view and no people. Half of it is spent talking to myself. How the day went, how I look forward to the future and how I believe in myself. I analyze my own thoughts and where they come from. The point is understanding yourself and who you are, what you think and why you think those things. Thus helping you to actively break down the shit that hurts you and hinders your success. You will have a better understanding of yourself and you will love yourself more. You will feel more comfortable in your own skin.
Ninth - Believe it, be positive and above all know that this is for you. Believe in these things that I spoke of. Don't allow yourself to doubt and think "What's the point". The point is you. Listen man, if you don't fight for yourself then no one will. No one will fix you. You must fix yourself. You must fight for yourself. Have some self worth. I've had thoughts of suicide in the past but I turned it into a clever "No way world. If you want to get rid of me you'll have to kill me. Try your best, bitch. In the meanwhile I'm gonna go be awesome." Be positive. Know that these things will pay off as long as you do them and believe in them.
Final point - All these things are lifetime commitments. This is not a challenge. This is not a test. This is a lifestyle change. Changing what you do and changing how you look at life and the world we live in. You need to commit to making a change and make it happen.

Anyway this is my advice for you. No, it has nothing to do with girls or friends. Y'know why? Because those things won't make you happy. Your happiness must come from within. Anything else is just a band aid you put on your misery. Band aids don't let your wounds breathe. And they need to breathe. So be free and work for yourself.

MainManSadio · 2018-09-22T09:58:25+00:00

Well personality is only what you believe you are.

Think you’re stupid? You’re stupid.

Think you’re ugly and awkward? You’re ugly and awkward.

The moment you drop these limitations that your idiotic brain(brain is the idiot not you pls don’t take offence) tries to fool you with just for getting sympathy, you will blow all these barriers away and work yourself to shine like the sun. Remember no one is your biggest enemy than your own brain itself.

Just try an exercise, say 2 good things about yourself and just watch your brain try to find reasons to reject that based on NOTHING but arguments driven to make you feel bad yourself.

Okay maybe some bad situations in the past with some people make you feel that way. I used to think about this too much, what THAT person did, what THIS person did. Thing is, they don’t give a fuck about what they did man so why you gotta carry that burden yourself? Just drop it!! There are a fuckload of people out there who will like you for who you are you just have to keep putting yourself out there I GUARANTEE you will find them.

P. S. Sorry for the long post. I feel you cause I am the same place as you right now.

hank_henderson_79 · 2018-09-22T11:29:15+00:00

Fuck all that noise. Stop looking for attention

piperson · 2018-09-22T15:44:58+00:00

You have crippling insecurities. You think way too much about what others think. You've got to find yourself again. Be your relaxed self. Who is that? Does anyone like your relaxed self? Who gives a fuck. The important thing is that you like your relaxed self. When you enjoy yourself, you are more attractive to others. Everyone likes to have fun. Be fun. Have fun. Do things that you enjoy.

One of the best ways to stop thinking about others is to exercise. Go run for a half hour and see if you are still thinking about others. Exercise grounds you and makes you see things in a practical light. It also causes endorphins, the happy hormone, to go off in the brain giving you a feeling of peace and wellbeing.

Really, to feel good about yourself and to help others see you in a better light, get fit. Life is way more fun when you are fit.

MrHouse2281 · 2018-09-22T16:12:18+00:00

Don't go looking for girls until you sort the rest of the shit in your life out. IMO it's far more important (and valuable) to have friends, not to mention easier. Hanging out with, and mimicking them in the areas that you fall short in will fill in the gaps and hopefully make you a more well-rounded person.

Do not forget, you have value. It's just hidden from you right now.

No one values me. Im invisible.

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Title	No one values me. Im invisible.
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