Openers

ClockworkPUA · 2013-08-01T17:03:01+00:00

I have had a lot of success with this gambit. I can't remember the name of it but you just say "let's play a game. Tell me 5 things about yourself, 4 true and 1 lie. Ill try to figure out the lie" The things they tell you will give you a lot of material for further conversations.

ExMouth7 · 2013-08-01T14:17:40+00:00

First just relax. Nothing you text will magically make her like you. If you think of a joke or something make the joke but just talk to her in text like a normal conversation.

Use your first text to reference something you talked about with her especially something that got you a DHV hit. For instance if you mention you do cross fit and she is like "OMG I tried it once and I loved it," you can make your first text "Just finished my cross fit workout today, have you done anything exciting?"

Then take what she says and make it a normal conversation. If she is like "oh nothing" then bust her balls or if she is like "My parents are visiting me" or whatever comment on that like a normal conversation.

nittutt · 2013-08-01T10:03:41+00:00

First - Never take your phone out of your pocket unless:

You are getting someones number
Someone is calling you
Someone texted you and YOU ARE NOT DOING ANYTHING ELSE AT THE MOMENT.

Secondly - Why do you need it to be "a wholesome talk"?

What you are doing is "preparing" for something that you have no idea will ever be. Just fucking go say "Hi" and take it from there. If it's not a "wholesome" talk, what the fuck does that have to do with ANYTHING?

Stop putting more pressure on yourself than what is needed.

WarriorHawk · 2013-08-01T20:05:24+00:00

Texting conversations suck. When you want to start one, use a hook from a previous interaction. Something that just you two (or maybe a few others) will understand the reference to. Something like a nickname, or a joke about an event you both witnessed/interacted in. Then transition to in person meetings, or better yet: Call them up and set up an in person meeting. Calling makes you different from the rest of men who just text.

Also, I feel a lot of people didn't read the post and are just responding with in person opener advice which was not asked for.

Em0n3y · 2013-08-01T17:21:23+00:00

I love using situational openers because its just an observation of what's going on around you. For example at a bar waiting for a drink women usually get served first, so I like to try to get the women to buy my drink so I don't have to wait and bam convo started. I think your getting stuck in your head, opening is the easy part. Even a simple, "who are you?" works wonders. The other day sitting in traffic I was waving to people then got 2 numbers in literally 1 min. Be bold and confident about it... Women love that shit.

2013-08-02T05:36:50+00:00

Don't have conversations over text. IMO, you can't game over text. Socializing is mostly about the sub-communication (body language, the underlying mood of the interaction, physical contact, situational context, etc.), and you lose all of that goodness when you text. There's almost no sense of emotional connection, unless it's someone you know really well. Even so, I'd still avoid text conversations. I really only text to handle logistics, or to ping a girl I haven't talked to in a while.

Maybe this is just me though. Some guys apparently have success with text game. I'm not one of those guys.

chickenman1998 · 2013-08-03T23:04:18+00:00

Nice shoes, wanna fuck?

todayismyday2 · 2013-08-01T12:07:10+00:00

Stop using openers. Using something repeatedly shows that you're dependant on outcome (you want to get the same result), that you want to achieve something. But if an opener doesn't work, it will not start working out of nowhere. Maybe the problem is not knowledge, but the way you think and act. That's why "learning" is not accumulation of knowledge, but rather "change". Also, you will never learn pickup if you continue relying on openers. Work on yourself, not openers.

I always try to think of something new. Why? Because it puts me in state, while trying out the same thing over and over again doesn't, even if it provides the benefit of success.

Title	Openers
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Upvotes	11
Comments	21
Date	August 1, 2013 9:07 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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