Overcoming oneitis and jealousy

specter539 · 2013-07-18T22:56:38+00:00

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2013-07-18T16:41:00+00:00

Severing all contact and methods of contact is a start. Block on facebook, delete all numbers, delete all texts and messages you have stored.

Then - fill your life with something else. Get hobbies, interests, passions. You get oneitis because you think this person is going to make you happy because you currently aren't, and maybe you also think you don't have a chance of ever finding someone else so they are automatically perfect for you?

asad16 · 2013-07-18T16:27:18+00:00

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RedditorInvestor · 2013-07-19T00:03:39+00:00

This going to sound a bit unorthodox, but the reason you're experiencing one-itis is because you're only remembering the good things about her. Pick the most unlikeable feature about the girl (ditzy, flaky, too flirty with other guys) and magnify that by 1000. You'll then see she's not as "perfect" as you thought.

2013-07-18T17:09:17+00:00

Just getting with another girl does help. I've had oneitis myself for a couple of months now, but I made sure not to contact. Even a few days ago I was still thinking about her. But last night, get freaky in a club with an 18yo redhead and guess what? I just realised I had a great night, I'm not completely broken and un-dateable/un-fuckable, and this experience was 5x more intense and exciting than the girl I thought was 'perfect' for me.

I won't see last night's girl ever again probably, so I still have zero female prospects as of now, but who cares! I've done it once, I'll do it again, except it will be closer to me picking the next one, than me pining away hoping for HER approval.

longlive4chan · 2013-07-18T16:40:38+00:00

You're awesome and sexy. She didn't realize that, so she has shitty tastes. You'll find a better girl.

(I try to remind myself of this mindset when I'm going through the same thing)

thewordofmouse · 2013-07-19T14:16:38+00:00

This is all great advice here. Like everyone says 'approach more women', but you need to understand why.

Once you start approaching a lot of women, you will come to understand that you are in abundance. You are surrounded by great women, and any girl out there could be the girl of your dreams, realistically. Once you come to terms with the fact that one girl isn't the end of the world, and there will be another if you lose her, you put yourself in a position of power.

Another thing you need to understand is women deserve your respect and should be entitled to as much sex as they want. If you care about a girl then let her be happy. If you give her enough of a reason to be exclusive to you, she will.

squattincassanova3 · 2013-07-18T20:50:38+00:00

As much as I dislike RSD Jeffy....

Solution is "Get MORE girls"

http://www.youtube.com/squattincassanova

BleLLL · 2013-07-19T15:20:25+00:00

http://therationalmale.com/2011/08/30/there-is-no-one/

Title	Overcoming oneitis and jealousy
Author	ImprovingMe
Upvotes	36
Comments	21
Date	July 18, 2013 4:20 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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