Oneitis is a terrible thing, and probably plagues a good majority of you guys out there. I had oneitis for this one girl for nearly 2 years, and it was bad. She fucking ruined my game (or better yet, I LET her ruin my game) and gave me enough attention to keep me hooked, but not enough to do anything besides making out a few times.

Show up at some place with me, and flirt all night with some guy. Yes, I was essentially her little validator, give her confidence until something better came along. It killed my confidence, it made me have shitloads of self-doubt, the list could go on and on... but you probably already know how it feels.

Had Enough

Finally, about a month back, I decided I had enough. It was too much for me to handle, and she did some shit that really stepped over my boundaries. I called her out on it, and I was feeling better self-confidence wise. I decided that I would also keep my interaction with her to a minimum.

See Her Tonight

I saw her tonight at a party, and wasn't sure what I would do when I saw her. I was cordial, friendly, and talkative and danced a bit with her, but she didn't take up all my attention like in the past. No, I essentially treated her as a friend. I was flirting with other girls, and wow did it strike me how many girls I MISSED because I was too fucking wrapped up in this one.

I grinded with this one really cute chick for a while, went for the K-close, but some other dude she was flirting with all night starting following us, and she definitely got LMR. We kept moving, he kept following, and she couldn't do it in front of him... Whatever, fun night regardless.

Meanwhile, I saw my old oneitis make out with some other guy, and I honestly couldn't give two shits, and it felt good. I was flirting it up with many other girls, easily could have slept with one (I'm not into her all that much, so I'm not going to) and did my old oneitis care? Fuck if I know, nor do I care.

How I Got To This Point

I had to actually tell myself enough was enough, and to not be a sucker anymore. Because fuck that shit. Guys, oneitis isn't a choice, but you have a CHOICE on how you can act on it. You could be the little sucker while she bangs other dudes... or you can man the fuck up, decide you're not going to take it, and that you're better than that and will go meet some new women on your own.

Looking Forward

I hope I stay strong enough to keep this girl at a reasonable distance, she has a way of sneaking back into my life. I just need to remember everything that I went through for nothing, and remember, there are other girls out there. But it starts with you, YOU need to decide that you're done.