So I am starting to see how my lack of social skills, is consistently hindering, and arguably constantly decreasing my skills even further, in all interactions in my life.

I'm not even aware of this until I analyze in hindsight. For example, say a class or family gatherings or my dojo, I consistently weird people (guys and girls) out or make them gravitate away from me pretty quickly. Then, since I've established myself into the awkward person, they now interact with me cautiously / nervously, giving me less opportunities to learn from new interactions.

So my question is, where can I go as a 30yr old that permits me plenty of opportunities to pick up basic repeated social interactions and nuances that don't have elements of seduction around it like bars and clubs (gives me violent shakings, so don't think I'm ready at all). I'm not even trying to learn pick up as this point, just want to be a normal social person who can converse some fun conversation and not weird people out within the first interaction, build rapport, make new lasting friends.

And am I autistic?