Plate found out about other plates

OatsForDays · 2018-11-12T20:15:53+00:00

For starters: none of these girls are yours. They very well could be sleeping with other girls or at least going on dates.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with what you're doing though. I wouldn't worry too much.

If you truly care about girl 3, and could see yourself with her, you could consider cutting off the other two girls.

I'm currently seeing two girls. They are both aware that I am seeing other girls and they are fine with it...for now.

But it wont always be that way. I've been talking to one girl for over a month, and the other girl for two weeks.

Eventually most girls will get fed up with it, and they will try to force your hand because they want to be exclusive with you.

That's when you have to make a decision.

Naturally, you'll like 1 girl more than the others. My game plan is to keep dating these two girls until one of them brings up exclusivity. If it's the girl I like more, I will agree. If it's the girl I dont like as much, I will have to cut ties.

here4aLaugh · 2018-11-12T20:00:46+00:00

So spinning plates means - sleeping with multiple women at the same time?

hunterpua · 2018-11-12T20:41:33+00:00

Dump her.

Trust me man. I learned my lesson the hard way a few times. You don't wanna mess up a girl like that.

The way I let a girl go these days is have a talk with her and explain everything that I like about her and how much I care for her but at the same time me being polyamorous is my decision, its the way I have chosen to live my life and I let her know that I am aware of how its hurting her which is why I believe its best to just end it.

But here's the thing. My talks like that go pretty smoothly, yours may not. The difference is in how we both run our harems. The way I have mine set up is very transparent. At the very beginning of my sexual relationship with an individual girl I make it crystal clear that I am polyamorous and can only see her on that basis, a lot of times I've made that fact clear before we've even kissed. I also have boundaries set up which I maintain strictly so that there is a clear distinction between girlfriend-boyfriend and just two people fucking each other regularly. For example, I don't allow any kind of girlfriend-like behavior and in the first few weeks I start seeing a girl she usually reaches for my hand while we're walking so that we can walk hand in hand. I just calmly take her hand and bring it up to the bend of my elbow or the bottom of my bicep to let her know that she can hold on to me if she likes but hand holding is only reserved for girlfriends and I explain that to her so that she understands.

People should be able to see you together and not think you guys are in a relationship. Remember, 93% of communication is non-verbal so it can be said that you guys are in an open relationship but you have to reinforce that with action for it to really stick.

Throughout my relationship with any individual girl in my harem I'm always enforcing and reiterating my boundaries so that she is always aware consciously and subconsciously that our relationship is about sex, having fun, and friendship not about having a life together.

Next time be clear about what you want from a girl you sleep with at the very beginning and make sure the dynamics of the relationship are very obviously distinguishable from a monogamy in her eyes without having to bring up the other women because if you simply rely on the fact that you're seeing other women while you treat her like a girlfriend then there will be nothing stopping her from thinking that "you have a special connection beyond what you and any other girl has that can overcome this chapter in your relationship".

....

Btw, where does the term "spinning plates" come from? When I learned how to have sexual relationships with multiple girls at the same time it was called a Harem, MLTR, or a Polyamory. I'm interested to see the kind of advice you guys are getting these days on the topic.

SelfLoveArmy · 2018-11-12T23:15:32+00:00

I tell women I'm seeing other women to avoid any issues. Basically every top guy I know does this. The only exception I can think of is John Mulvehill.

Maurodamia · 2018-11-12T21:29:11+00:00

lol @ her being upset yet still banged you. Western women have no self respect, I love it. Ha!

Title	Plate found out about other plates
Author	jakeroviks
Upvotes	1
Comments	5
Date	November 12, 2018 7:59 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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