Probably the wrong subreddit, but i'm a guy who feels like no matter how hard I try I cannot be sexy, help?

TheDoctorMouse · 2012-06-24T02:19:29+00:00

For skin, use lotion. Lotion works wonders. It even reduces pimples. srsly.

For your scars, I doubt they're a big deal, though pictures would be helpful.

As for height, 5'6" is average height. I'm about 5'4". If you ignore it, so will the people with whom you talk. Eyes, feet, hands, and your widdler, who gives a fornication? With regards to the lady stick shift, it's how you use it that matters most.

Weight? Work out. Do burpees. Go to /r/Fitness. You don't need a gym, just burpees and sit ups; that covers a ton of muscles.

No facial hair? Whatever. I can't grow any more than ugly freshman-in-high-school stubble. So don't try, you don't need facial hair. Just make sure to shave the teensy ugly shit off every day or too for a lovely clean look.

Glasses? Me too. Who cares. They make you look smarter. /r/malefashionadvice has a sidebar item that deals with glasses, I think. Read it.

No game? Practice, bro. No experience? It's not going to fall on your lap, practice. No friends? Find some. You know, by practicing game.

Women out of your league? Don't be an idiot. Every human life is equal to every other human life. Except for you; you're worth about 28 human lives. You're the most important person in your world.

You need confidence. You can't just make confidence, you earn it by being brave. You become confident when you do shit that scares you even though it scares you. You become confident when the only result you want is a good time and practice; not new friends, not the pleasure of sticking your Goliath in some moist, quivering, succulent fem-cave, just awesome social fun. If you care too much, you won't get anything because you'll come off as needy.

In conclusion, /r/malefashionadvice, /r/Fitness, burpees, lotion, and god damn mother boning practice.

capitulum · 2012-06-24T02:21:42+00:00

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capitulum · 2012-06-24T02:32:30+00:00

check out r/malefashionadvice and start dressing better. Use skin products to work on your bad skin. You can't change your nose so stop worrying about it. guys alot uglier than you get laid all the time, realize it, accept it.

Work out hard. It will make you feel better about yourself. pick a program and go do it. Do not tell yourself "Im not strong enough" "I cant do it" "It's not worth it", it's worth your time to work out for more reasons than just to pick up girls.

Tl;dr Fix what you can and forget about the rest. Ugly guys get laid all the time.

toughluck1 · 2012-06-24T08:44:41+00:00

Get fit. Don't even need to get ripped. Start jogging once a week. Get to a momentum of 3 times a week. You will NOT see results. Once you get to this, do HIIT or sprints, high cardiovascular workout. Results will come then.

Since you're meaty, check with a doctor first if you're scared.

Stop using lotions, if you've tried brand after brand and it doesn't work, time for some serious medication. Go to a doctor, they can give you antibiotics, and stronger topical creams/isotren/etc for your acne (this is what i did, mine isn't gone, but it has improved tremendously.) Drink green tea and water throughout the day, anti oxidients get clears you of pimples you have now and effectively improves skin. For dryness and flaky stuff.. moisturize. Scared of being a pussy? Do it at home where no one can fucking see it, and would you rather have good skin and be comfortable in it or jacking off your flaky dick everyday?

Once you've gotten good at exercising, work on the muscles. Get some clothes that fit you, and look good, once you get friends you can go on and ask them, compare ideas, etc. If lasik is within the budget and safe for your cornea, go for it if again, you're safe with taking that risks. Don't look good with glasses? Try a different type, I've seen most nerdy guys make the change to those big old hipster glasses (with degree of course) and it looks good. Experiment around. You're 20, not 40, you don't have to have facial hair. I'm 19, I grow hair in asia where people barely can support a stubble. Clean shaven is the look to go for here. Even if some girls dig the facial hair, they'll still sleep with you if you can't grow it.

Do stuff you like for game/personality/experience. Once you've got your hobbies underway (might wanna get some social skills, there are some good subreddits for em as well) You can go out to bars alone, or go on talking to people on the street.

Being alone - there's a wingman locator somewhere here, if you're from a more remote place Simple Pickup forums has a better worldwide audience for wingmanship.. and if you really can't find someone, go on out to bars making male friends first at least. Baby steps is key if you're alone. Nothing is more defeatful then going out alone, trying to take a giant leap with women and building a house of self-doubt around you. I know, cause i've did that.

Honestly, once you're interesting to yourself, you can be interesting towards women, without even having to mention the stuff you do. Shit, I don't think I've had an interaction in the early stages that I had to mention myself in the early stages. Keep comfortable, it will be like being alone with yourself, just with someone else.

Now don't take my advice if you want to get laid... Cause I'm a beginner. But doing all this, and within a week of discovering the seduction world, I've gotten number closes and facebook closes. Physical contact with girls. All in broad daygame light. Once, I've stuck my this one foot in, I can see a world of an even better life of sex and relationships, within veterans beckoning me in, with their awesome stories of pickup. Have hope.

Singstephsing · 2012-06-24T09:28:16+00:00

Practicing your game can get you into a situation to build confidence that you don't feel like you have now, but it won't give you a reason to believe in yourself.

The first step you have here is ultimately to believe that you're worth it. YOU need to see a reason to view yourself in a positive manner, at least once a day, and for whatever reason you choose. Maybe today you like the way your hair falls, maybe tomorrow you are going to appreciate your intelligence and quick wit, maybe the following day it's because you've gotten a shit ton done and you're proud of the work you're putting in, but whatever the reason is, there's gotta be one.

Next step, change the way you talk about yourself. Speaking to yourself, of yourself, in negatives only accumulates more of the negative. Figure out what you can of yourself, accept it as much as you can, and then transform it into the most positive direction you can. So you're short, so what? You're closer to boob or crotch level on the average female, and that's never a bad thing. So you're smaller in the member section, all that means is that you need to know how to use it, and that takes research and a willingness to try it out. (A girl will be much happier with a lover of any stature if he knows what the fuck he's doing and how to pick up on sexual cues. It's not what you have, it is what you do with it.) There is an up side to every down side, and you need to find that to help bolster the reasons for which you're going to be awesome at your own game.

Being sexy is 90% what people think you have and 10% of what you actually have. Make that 90% work for you and you'll be just fine.

2012-06-24T01:18:16+00:00

The only thing you listed that will stop you from being good with women is your weight.

Title	Probably the wrong subreddit, but i'm a guy who feels like no matter how hard I try I cannot be sexy, help?
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Date	June 24, 2012 1:12 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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