One of the problems with the PUA community is that people want to simplify women into these simple robots that can be easily manipulated by a set of commands: you put in a few inputs (high SMV, “game”) and get an easy output (sex, relationship, etc…).

Problem is that women are, well, complicated. It is true that certain things are GENERALLY true for women: women prefer attractive guys, women prefer well-dressed guys, they prefer confident, dominant men, etc… But one thing I’ve learned in my 10+ years of PUAing is this: women are an extremely complicated mix of emotions, interests, life experiences, values, beliefs, likes, dislikes, fears, hopes, dreams, etc… There is no simple formula that will work on all women because at the end of the day you are dealing with the human mind, which is the most extremely fucked up and complicated thing in the world. It’s like a supercomputer that can break in a million different ways. Many women suffer from weird mental illnesses, insecurities, anxieties, drug addictions, uncertainties, and hangups. The worst thing is that women have many different emotions that often directly contradict each other (for example, their desire for a man who loves them vs. their desire for a guy out of their league) and oftentimes their emotions directly contradict their logical thoughts and they don’t even know there is a contradiction because their emotions are unconscious. Women also have a long list of things they look for in a guy, and it is basically impossible for any man to have all of these things: good looks, money, status, height, big dick, sense of humor, confidence, swagger, common interests, smooth talking, etc… Women also take a long time to decide if they like a guy, which is they will oftentimes dismiss a guy as a “creep” and then later fuck him. It’s all very weird.

What’s the point of all this? Well, the upshot is this: we go back to the typical PUA advice of APPROACH, APPROACH, APPROACH. Because you have no idea what weird shit is going on in that girl’s head, and whether or not she will reject you. So you might as well approach and push until she gives you a definitive rejection. And then when she does reject you, don’t feel bad because there are literally a million and one fucking reasons she could have rejected you. I used to mentally beat myself up when a super-hot girl would reject me and then end up with some loser, and then I later realized that I shouldn’t give a shit because there are a ton of reasons why she could have chosen me over her.

The best way to think about it is this: SOMETIMES WOMEN JUST WANT TO FUCK A BIG BLACK GUY (or whatever specific thing they are into). I have a friend (we’ll call him J) who I do lots of PUA shit with. I introduce J to girls, he introduces me to girls, etc... One night he calls me and says he’s hanging out with some girls at a really chill, yet fancy bar we always go to. I meet J at the bar and he introduces me to two girls: one girl who he is with (Let’s call her A) and her friend B. Now, mind you, I SHOULD be in the zone. I am dressed well, I know the owner and staff of the bar so I’m getting free drinks and DHVs, J vouches for how awesome I am, etc… Now here is the weird thing: B shows NO INTEREST IN ME AT ALL. Like, at all. This is really weird for me because B is hot but I regularly pull hotter and in shittier circumstances (a 2 on 2 hangout with people you already know is usually much easier to click with a girl than a random approach in a crowded bar). But she just isn’t feeling me at all. Seeing as how this is going nowhere I excuse myself and go to a club. Later on I run into J at the club with the two girls. And guess what? B is with a big black guy! And then I realized a truth I had already known: sometimes women just want to fuck a big black guy. No matter how good my “game” was or how good I was dressed or how awesome I was, this girl wouldn’t care because she wanted to fuck a big black guy. And I didn’t blame her: that’s what she wanted. I’ve fucked really hot girls who liked me just because I am middle eastern and I myself have dissed super-hot girls because I was looking for something different that night (blonde, big tits, etc…).

Sometimes girls just don’t like you. That’s FINE! Women are complicated. Don’t freak out. Do whatever you can to make yourself more desirable (work out, eat well, dress better, etc…) but at the end of the day you need to realize that some girls just won’t fucking like you. And you have no way of knowing which girls will and will not like you so your best bet is to just approach, approach, approach and then you will find out.

My last point: a lot of guys are afraid of approaching girls because they are afraid they will look “creepy” or they bail on an interaction because the girl doesn’t seem into them or they feel awkward. Here is the deal with that: women are complicated, and as you know, they themselves do not understand their thoughts and emotions. On top of that, approaching girls in bars is weird because they only see your external appearance and they don’t see all the stuff about you that makes you awesome (remember, men’s appeal is less appearance-based than women’s). So if you approach wrongly or say the wrong thing they treat you a “creep” but you can change their mind later. I’ve even had conversations with girls I fucked who originally thought I was a creep/weirdo/asshole/etc… Of course, all things being equal, the girl who starts off treating you as a creep is less likely to eventually fuck you than the girl that starts off into you, but like I said, girls are complicated and it is sometimes possible to change their mind.

Finally, when talking to girls remember that they are complicated and they may have had weird life experiences, values, or sensitivities that you aren’t aware of. While you should never supplicate to girls or let them walk all over you, you should also be mindful of their weird quirks.

Good luck!