One constant thing that pops up in discussions on this subreddit is Autism spectrum disorders or Asperger's syndrome. While it's true there is such a disorder, which is neurological, and it's true just by statistics that some of you have it, most of you don't. It's easy to be hypocondriac about it, and its not helpful.

This article gives some clarity on the subject: https://www.irishtimes.com/health/your-family/2025/04/05/adhd-children-are-now-in-a-queue-with-50-year-old-adults-for-a-drug-that-is-in-short-supply/

One easy way to mistake yourself for ASD is from having arrested social development in early to mid childhood. Cue to personal experience. I was raised in the 80's in a normal mid-size Finnish city of about 50 000 people. I never went to kindergarden, having been take care by elderly couple in what's called family daycare here. Also in the housing company my family lived in, there were only kids couple of years older and younger, no one my age, so I naturally had to play with younger kids. In school I never fit in socially and was teased from elementary to high school late 80's to 90's. Things weren't helped when we moved to a smaller city in early 90's during my upper elementary years. I ended up a nerd, with the whole d&d, computers and good grades trope.

I never thought there was something wrong, I just thought that the people in my school were idiots and that I could only relate to the couple of smart people, the other nerds, who were socially as awkward. When I started thinking something was wrong was when I met my first girfriend, who was a diagnosed mild ASD case, and with very similar symptoms to mine. I figured that was what I had. The realtionship didn't last, and neither did a marriage I had with my second gf.

When I started socialising in my 30's, through finding out about RSD, I started questioning my self-diagnosed ASD, as I didn't find it difficult to get social skills. It felt painful, it felt humiliating and it was slow at first, yes. But it wasn't nigh-impossible and once I started getting out of my logical mind, it accelerated. Now I have a budding family and job where I public speak weekly and fasilitate a professional, social business ecosystem.

So there, you're probably not autistic, you're just lazy and scared, like most of us. If you're frmo the blue states in the US and grew up in 90's or 00's, you have a good chance of having arrested socialization, which the game can kickstart and put on steroids. Get out of your head, your thoughts are mostly bullshit. Reality is natural. Nature is brutal. Sexual selection is real. There are things that work and things that don't. The game is real whether you like it or not. You either accept it or live in your fantasy (insert favourite manosphere bubble here) world forever. You either get better or bitter, your choise.