Pull back after signs of interest

gilly8885 · 2014-06-12T23:18:36+00:00

I am the same way. I know of girls that I flirt with and talk to show obvious signs that like me. My friends even say "you need to do.something about it, she likes you"...but I just don't, I can't explain it, seems so stupid. I like to say maybe I get enough satisfaction knowing that I can win over the girls' interest. I become lazy to take it a step further because I like the small win and the feeling. Be to be honest, I'm just cock blocking myself and I can't wait to figure out or ignore the retarded psychology of it all.

saxophone_singh · 2014-06-12T18:07:08+00:00

It's the instant male reaction of not getting committed I think. I'm not an expert in this field but in relationships in the past, I've always felt this way around a month in. You're just getting a dose of it instantly when you know they want you. Maybe try fighting through it or even act on it. A sense of loss is one of the things they teach you to act out in this subreddit I think, makes them want you more if they think they can't have you and all that. Hope this helps.

MasonJarTeaDrinker · 2014-06-12T20:37:46+00:00

I think it's the fear of failure, you think "oh shit she's actually into me, I don't want to fuck this up" and it makes you pull back.

I think just with any other things you probably have to force it through and fake it till you make it, just force yourself to say something that you typically wouldn't say or be more aggressive then you typically would be, after a few times you will realize that it really isn't a big deal and you're confidence will go up causing the problem to become smaller and with practice you will be fucking these chicks before you know it.

(I really need to start using periods when I write there things.)

OlaFriend · 2014-06-12T22:00:33+00:00

Thanks for your reactions guys. I will try and push true it because I also don't want to miss anymore 9s and 8s and hell 7s ;) Thanks for the insights!

ender_regen · 2014-06-13T06:09:36+00:00

Kino, escalate blah blah....etc.

But fuck it, use your automatic reaction to your advantage. If you exit gracefully when she's already into you, it makes her MORE INTO YOU.

To use PUA terminology, it forces her into your frame.

sharperguy · 2014-06-13T09:56:19+00:00

I have exactly the same thing. I think its because you're just reaching the edge of your comfort zone and suddenly the stakes are high. You want to to back where you are enjoying achieving easily instead of venturing into the unknown and taking risks.

Mick990 · 2014-06-14T13:59:47+00:00

Ah... I am exactly the same. The solution is self amusement! Get cocky, loud (without going full jackass), expressive etc to get back into a fun flirty mood. It is a depressing problem but getting depressed about it makes it worse. My latest way of breaking the physical barrier with someone who's obviously into me is to pick them up (or if the environment doesn't allow for it just a casual arm around the shoulder as we move somewhere else) and just say "you're awesome!" in a friendly (with slightly pervy undertone) way. And like all good advice on the internet, I'll end it with, But hey I dunno.

sedditforthewin · 2014-06-12T21:03:14+00:00

I have this same issue sometimes and I don't buy the 'fear of failure', because I know EXACTLY what to do. The common factor I've noticed is that when I feel like a boss or when I'm used to closing in a certain way, I don't hesitate. Wherever your escalation sticking point is repeat it on every girl, and learn to get in state more often.

Argh, I don't even know how many 9's I've run away from when they're practically begging for a bone.

Title	Pull back after signs of interest
Author	OlaFriend
Upvotes	8
Comments	14
Date	June 12, 2014 4:56 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/27z72e/pull_back_after_signs_of_interest/
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