That "specific sexual activity" being a handjob.

I haven't been offered a hj since high school. For some reason or another, the last couple girls I've stayed with have offered them to me. I fucking hate them with every ounce of my soul. So, in turn, I just outright rejected them when they tried to initiate it. It's not bugging me because I know my rejection just made them want me more, but the problem is now they are about 5 states away. I just can't seem to come up with a scenario of how I could have changed this around to gotten something more.

To give a brief description of each, I went to Cali on a roadtrip with some buds who stayed in a hotel all the nights. Meet the girls on separate nights. (To be clear, these were two different nights, both different girls) For the first one there was plenty of foreplay involved and I attempted to comfort/escalate but got denied eventually. So naturally I backed off and she came back, only to try to do it again. Then I just outright denied it. She made some damn amazing breakfast in the morning though, that was a plus. The other girl was really similar, except she made it explicitly clear that she wouldn't do head/sex to begin with. I didn't give a fuck I tried to go for it anyway. Same deal happened, she rejected it and I backed off and then she tried for a round two.

I guess I was more confused than anything. Like I said, I've never had a girl want to give a handjob, which is why it shocked the hell out of me. In case this happens again (Oh god I hope not), what would be some ways to get passed this?

TL;DR: Cali girls apparently only want to give me handjobs. shit.