As the title suggests, I am currently reading through Robert Glover’s book, but I am struggling to understand the concept that Nice Guys think that they “aren’t good enough”.

I find that there is always room for improvement in whatever I do, and believing that I am “good enough” at something is a mindset that will stunt my growth. For example, becoming complacent with my current skill at breakdancing sounds like an excuse to not try. I won’t improve if I don’t look for ways to do so, and practice with improvement as my intent. Similarly, thinking that I am “smart enough” is a mindset that would prevent me from learning more. It would make me averse to new ideas, and distant in my conversations with others.

Instead, I adopt the mindset that I should not be satisfied with my current capabilities and knowledge, but rather satisfied with the fact that I am improving. I may not be at my fitness goal, but I am proud of myself for consistently hitting the gym. I may not have perfect interactions during my approaches, but I am proud to have approached.

In fact, I look for people in my life who reflect on themselves and seek improvement. My closest friends are all striving to be the best versions of themselves, and we support each other in our efforts.

Yet it seems that Grover is suggesting to find complacency in myself. Am I misunderstanding his message?