Something thats commonly overlooked, despite it being so important. You approach a girl when she's not expecting it, she's gonna be a bit startled at least, there's people around and she's feeling the spotlight effect just like you, you don't want to keep stimulating her fight or flight, and you don't want to make a move and ask for her number at this stage, because she'll fall back on saying anything so she can escape the situation (flight).

"sorry, i have a boyfriend".

Especially during day game, if you come right out complimenting her looks, women will think that this guy is desperate and he wants to use me.

Just think about when you're in some foreign country and you got these street sellers (or street women) calling you handsome and complimenting you, you immediately think, "oh this guys trying to sell me trash and take my money".

So you need to initially focus on decreasing her anxiety.

  • A big part of this is reducing your own anxiety, so she doesn't mirror your emotions and feel unsafe. Breathe, talk and move slower.
  • Body language, you don't want to square up with her, you DON'T want to make her feel like the centre of your world, because you want her to feel like she's able to walk away without you continuing to pursue her. Use a bladed stance and don't maintain eye contact too long.
  • Maybe not the best idea to ask many personal questions yet (her name, age, what she does, where she works/goes to school, etc.), you're still a stranger to her.
  • Chat for a minute or two, once you can tell she's more calm and receptive, now you can spit more game and get personal. Look for IOIs