Scars and women

Deathcouch · 2016-05-28T17:19:52+00:00

Either tell them honestly, or make up a ridiculous newstory every time she asks, it will keep it mysterious. I tell people I fought a bear for my scar, or I was doing a jumping stunt and landed on my shoulder

ValencePUA · 2016-05-28T18:22:01+00:00

So I'm normally a big fan of laughing stuff off, but if you can do it right, on this one I think you could consider suddenly growing thoughtful/distant, telling her that you'll tell her the story someday, and then cutting right back to playful/humorous banter.

It doesn't hurt for a girl to know you have a serious, deep side, and she'll certainly want to see it if things so far enough, but when you're building things up it's not the time and place. I think a glimpse of that side can make you seem immediately more real than other guys who are fakes.

SexySmexxy · 2016-05-28T17:39:03+00:00

If they know then you can just tell them you had a rough childhood but you've worked thru it.

I mean if they know, and you know they know...

What's the point of dancing around it.

SkatingOnThinIce · 2016-05-28T22:02:38+00:00

I'll tell you the story behind these when I know you better/more intimate/I can trust you with it...

StevieBoyB · 2016-05-29T00:08:44+00:00

One thing I've learned, when you try to cover up your insecurities/hide things you're uncomfortable about it usually backfires.

I'd suggest trying to be honest with this one, pretty much try telling them what you've told us here: you were going through some shit/you did something you're not proud of/but now you've worked through it.

Even though it's an uncomfortable topic, the amount of trust you build with a girl (or anyone) over this is huge if you can just be straight up. You literally separate yourself from the majority of people and build massive value in the girl's eyes. She may even share some stuff with you and then you've built a deep connection, as most people just stick to small talk.

Sure, you may lose a few people on this, but I'm pretty confident for you that the ones you gain are way more meaningful relationships.

Think about the people you respect, they're usually able to talk openly and honestly about personal stuff. Instead of judging them, you usually admire them.

fezzesarecool4768 · 2016-05-29T00:09:27+00:00

I just wouldn't say anything about them to girls you're just meeting. Let them stare. Girls stare at my scars and I don't tell them the stories behind it until I know them better and have actual trust in her to not judge me based on the stories of how I got mine.

schatzski · 2016-05-29T01:47:13+00:00

I always tell them that there was a puppy running out in the street and a little boy was running after it. There was a car coming, so I jumped in the street and grabbed them just as the car clipped me...

But I always save the puppy and little boy. It makes for a good laugh.

Friendly_B · 2016-05-29T03:34:14+00:00

Make a cute, obviously not true joke out of it. Leave some mystery to it.

You're right to not want to sound a little crazy, but we've all done horrible things to ourselves at times or been steeped in depression. Maybe just let it be something for a later time.

RugratsReRuns · 2016-05-29T04:36:35+00:00

Have scars on arms also. Whenever anyone asks me, I just nonchalantly tell them they are "growth scars" and no one questions it.

Title	Scars and women
Author	rocketmanphill
Upvotes	3
Comments	13
Date	May 28, 2016 5:12 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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