Seddit, what helps (like notes) do you use in sets to keep on track?

unsexyMF · 2011-01-21T14:52:11+00:00

I agree with everything thesacred said. Also, you're using "RSD natural style"? IMO, RSD is full of mental masturbation, which can really mess with your head. I've watched The Blueprint, and I'm so glad that I don't think of any of that stuff when I'm actually trying to get with a girl. Don't think about "state" or "the nimbus" - think about the girl, what are her interests, and having sex with her. Don't be afraid to run out of things to say. The silences are where sexual tension lies.

thesacred · 2011-01-21T11:11:15+00:00

Here's a tip. Don't look at your phone for tips while you're trying to hit on a girl.

If you're running out of stuff to say, you're trying way too hard and you're overthinking. Be alert to her cues. Be very, very easygoing. Make it look like you're completely relaxed and in your element, and make it all about her. React to her cues, watch her eyes, get her talking and respond to everything she says as genuinely as you can, but without shutting her down or being negative. If there's a lull in conversation, use it to make eye contact and smile, or draw attention to something in the scenery around you. Do not ever let yourself flounder and look like you're trying to think of something to say. That's the worst vibe you can possibly send, like you're trying to entertain her and failing. She should be trying to keep your attention, not the other way around.

And if you're reading this on your fucking phone and she's sitting across from you, then it's too late. Tell her you have explosive diarrhea and go home.

RedErin · 2011-01-21T17:30:33+00:00

I disagree with those other dudes. Yeah sure, eventually you'll want to be completely natural and spontaneous, but it takes a while to get to that point. Having notes to remind you where you are can be helpful for a beginner.

I recommend re-reading the DiCarlo Escalation Ladder, and take a few notes from there.

Also, remember to pull along with your pushing.

The sexualizing thing sounds like a shit test, just ignore.

Running out of stuff to say happens every now again. Remember, it's only an awkward silence if you feel awkward. Just smile and make eye contact, like a boss.

chumpta · 2011-01-21T18:43:04+00:00

about half the time when i "run out of things to say" i just say whatever im thinking about. act as if the girl asked you that question: "what are you thinking about."

the other half i will let my silence hang there and wait for her to say something. if she is invested properly she will try to break some silences too. if not you can revert to saying what's on your mind, and building up some more attraction.

Title	Seddit, what helps (like notes) do you use in sets to keep on track?
Author	maxormis
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Comments	11
Date	January 21, 2011 9:16 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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