I used to view shit tests as a form of attack, questioning my skills and abilities, etc. I do not know where I got this idea from initially. But I know that every video on how women use shit tests to test men, I viewed as a red flag in potential partner. My emotional reaction when I realised I was tested, was stress.

But this is not true at all. I started viewing them as an occasion to banter, stay my ground, repeat where I'm aiming and go again. Or even add some sort of mystery to the emotional cocktail she wants. They can be fun sometimes too.

I have quite an abstract sense of humour naturally (think Monty Python). But what really changed my perspective were stand-up comedy shows. Dating is an act, a performance you can play. Still being honest is important, but with shit tests - they are just an opportunity to add a new emotion to your conversation.

It might be obvious to some of you, but I was very anxious about it before about it. So I thought I would share my new perspective and put in words what's on my mind about it now.

What's your view of shit tests?