Something I do not understand

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-07-13T19:07:40+00:00

The problem is that you isn’t understand how girls operate.

Their sexual behaviour is driven by their emotions, that means that in order for you to hookup with them you have to get them in the mood first by provoking them, messing with them, teasing them, flirting with them, etc…

A hookup cannot be negotiate cold like “hey i’m only here for sex” even if she doesn’t mind hooking up with a guy in general… because to want that with you you have to get her in the mood.

you are trying to look at this through makes point of view which is that you immediately see a girl who is hot enough and that’s all it takes for you to want sex. Girls aren’t like that.

Girls you need to talk with them, making them feel emotions, gradually getting more sexually intimate, then making out, then removing her clothes all without discussing what you want.

You just make it happen, you don’t seal the deal before it happens.

Sex has to be something that happened in the heat of the moment “unexpectedly” and “spontaneously”.

“One thing lead to another and we did it”

You don’t discuss before sex what kind of relationship is gonna be, you discuss it after sex has already happened.

Seduction is a skill where you entice women into feeling desired, valued, sexy and turned on and then you make your love to kiss her and sleep with her without verbally saying “hey o want to have a friendship with benefits”…

The magic happens on the moment when you are together sitting close to each other getting to know her a little bit and then making the move.

If you try to do it coldly, like “hey i think you are hot, and we have been chatting for a while, so would you be interested in having casual sex at my place and then starting a friendship with benefits?” then the answer will 99% of the time be “No thanks”

Environmental_Cress2 · 2022-07-14T02:17:29+00:00

exactly what I’m struggling with. They hate guys who try to sneak into their pants. So I am very direct… but I guess too much of anything is bad. And I guess we do have to sneak into those pants

kyrensolo · 2022-07-14T07:15:35+00:00

The truth is.... who knows how it's going to pan out? She might blow your mind and you may decide to get married and have children with her. How do you know UNTIL YOU'VE HAD SEX? (wink wink).

Take that mystery away, and sex ceases to be fun for women. They want to see if they can break you, so you leave the door open. Don't slam it shut on them.

More importantly - this is online. Typically online is used by women for casual hookups and nothing more. Everyone knows this. No need to spell it out.

So yeah, you're just going to have to not make them feel like sluts. Your job is to turn them on - not make them feel like they're going to see the local manwhore (which, although could be true, is not how they want the experience to feel like)

daddysgotanew · 2022-07-13T20:05:34+00:00

Women aren’t going to be ok with hooking up unless you’re exceptionally good looking. Otherwise you’re gonna have to pay (time, attention, affection, effort). Women don’t give their pussy away for free to men they see as equal to or below them, which is most women’s heads is a solid 90-95 percent of men

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-07-13T18:42:12+00:00

You have to do it tactfully and smart. You may put something like "if you are looking for a boyfriend, sponsor or daddy keep swiping. Or if you are looking for a friend to trade orgasms with, shoot me a line".

Domestic_Buy · 2022-07-13T19:11:59+00:00

Yeah, don’t say it straight up as this will put women off even if they are up for a hookup/casual. Just keep it vague such as ‘’someone I have chemistry with and see from there’’.

Then your game plan should be to get them to your place to vibe, escalate then have sex.

Thetruthisneeded · 2022-07-14T06:54:26+00:00

How many men do you think are trying to use women for only sex????????

99.9%! "Yayyyy another man who only sees me as a hole you put his dick in, I'm so flattered that my panties just flew right off!"

You're bringing nothing new, original, or unique, especially if you're trying to elicit sex without any guarantee of her sexual needs being a priority or concern.

Men really need to start going to therapy to find out why you're so sex focused, it's really reached a level of "gross, pathetic, off-putting, and offensive".

Title	Something I do not understand
Author	kyrensolo
Upvotes	2
Comments	38
Date	July 13, 2022 6:35 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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