Figured I'd share a story about some mixed signals experience I had, and how you really shouldn't rack your brain over it. Especially for dudes who tend to over analyze things (like myself).

The Problem

I was seeing this girl casually over the course of a few months, and I kept getting these very mixed signals from her. I couldn't pinpoint what the hell was wrong, and I kept analyzing and over analyzing what I was doing incorrectly. She wasn't just some girl I was trying to hook up with, I honestly saw her as girlfriend material and believed we would have made a pretty good match, but I had no idea where she stood and why there were constant mixed signals.

The Cold Hard Truth

I was going insane trying to figure out what was up, and I don't like to admit this, but it started to hit my confidence some too. I recently learned that this girl is having what is most likely problems with the ex, and isn't over their breakup (she never straight out told me, but she hinted some). This would explain the incredibly mixed signals I would get from her...

In a way, it was relieving, because I know now that it had nothing to do with me... but on account I legitimately dug this girl, it does suck a bit.

EDIT Turns out it's not an ex, but instead some guy she loves who lives a few state over.

Lesson (Hopefully) Learned

All of those months of brain stewing, over analyzing, and confusion I put myself through had NOTHING TO DO WITH ME THE ENTIRE TIME. Next time something like this happens, I will (hopefully) chalk it up to her own emotional baggage.

Moving Forward

I'll admit, this was a bit of a state killer as of late (yes, i guess I had a touch of oneitis for this girl) but moving forward, I decided to not initiate contact with her unless she does first for a few weeks. I am no longer going to chase her. I don't need the emotional turmoil of someone else's emotional baggage and someone who is unsure of what they want.

While it's going to be tough, I'm going to put her on the backburner and try to meet other girls. if she comes around, awesome... but I will do my best to not hold my breath.

TL;DR: Casually dated girl for a few months with incredibly mixed signals, and felt like I was always chasing. Drove myself insane trying to figure it out. Turns out she had a shitload of emotional baggage. Must move forward now.

EDIT: Turns out, not an ex... just another guy. I've been friendzoned. Sweet. This makes it a little harder for me to accept...