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[–]SeekingAlpha 2 points3 points4 points 14 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
State is everything for me. State (DGAF/Outcome independence) + Eye Contact + Posture + Kino is all I need.
Had a lot of success w this this week. If only I wasn't too lazy to do an FR. Typin's a bitch on my iPhone.
[–]ShittingTits 0 points1 point2 points 14 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Do you have a way you tap into it? I find it similar to being in a creative state(artists, musicians, dancers, etc... will empathize with this) where you engage in your respective craft and have a creative output. In my experience, I find the nature and feeling of that process similar to state. The similarity being the pure, true, and congruent expression. It happens so randomly and unexpectedly. Sometimes it will happen twice in a day. Sometimes you'll have a dry spell and it wont occur for a month or possibly even longer.
[–]dablac 1 point2 points3 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Musician (producer, so solo) here and I've never really thought about the similarity of a creative state and a "social" state before you mentioned it.
Occasionally when I'm making music I just get into a total groove and just constantly do everything perfectly the first try and often manage to whip out a mostly finished song in a few hours.
Other times I just sit there listening to my unfinished song looping without doing anything.
P.S. Nice name :P
[–]SeekingAlpha 0 points1 point2 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well said.
Doing something I really enjoy or am good at is the key to good state for me. Surfing is great. Connecting w/ close friends also huge.
[–]kazagistar 2 points3 points4 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Frame is how you actually get the girls, State is just the shortcut to having a stronger frame.
[–]merzen 2 points3 points4 points 14 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link
i find i'm "in state" once i open about 3 sets, usually with canned material i made up. once i get those 3, i am much more comfortable opening and talking with anyone, especially any hot girl that crosses my path, and i usually don't need my canned material any more. i pretty much transform from a shy guy, into a slightly less awkward one, who gives almost no fucks. alcohol and certain friends are definitely good catalysts to get in state faster/more energetic. i find either way i'm opening a few sets feeling awkward and nervous, but it eventually subsides.
[–]humanwire 0 points1 point2 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I recently was "in state" and looking back I think it probably started by chatting with people as I went about my day. After a few people I felt good and realized I was "in state".
[–]ShittingTits 0 points1 point2 points 14 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Correct me if I am wrong. You may have a slightly different conception of state than I do. Is the state you speak of just being able to fearlessly open and carry conversation in any set? The state I am speaking of includes those qualities but in addition it includes what I mentioned in the OP. Being awesome/the life of the party, feeling great, etc...
[–]merzen 0 points1 point2 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
i don't think we have different concepts of what in-state is, as for each of us it is when we're feeling our best socially. we just have different capabilities, or are at different levels of game when in-state.
also, we might be speaking from different experiences. so far, i haven't gamed at any parties, per se. I go to crowded bars/clubs where there are many different groups each having their own experience. So i may never claim that i was the life of the party, when i wasn't at a party to begin with.
[–]IAmTheOmNom 1 point2 points3 points 14 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Yeah. ... State is more or less feeling good and confident. That is why people say that it doesn't exist.
Problem is that many use it as an excuse. So don't be dependent on your state be the creator of your state.
[–]legendofpasta 5 points6 points7 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
When the history books of seduction and human interaction are written, this quote should be on the first page. "don't be dependent on your state be the creator of your state."
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I am always in state.
Meditation really, really helps. So does self-defense.
[–]whalesalad 0 points1 point2 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Tyler Durden talks about state a lot in RSD (real social dynamics). Definitely worth looking into his stuff.
[–]CinSity0 0 points1 point2 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
YES. to everything about your post. I've recently just entered into a "higher state" as I would deem it. Women can feel me enter the room and turn around almost like clockwork. Top ways to enter: • Workout before you go out. • Pre-going out playlist, not to long. 10-15 songs • Read my top 10 list multiple times, or start creating your own. top10 • Have 1 or 2 drinks (I find once im in state I no longer need to drink) • Open one set for momentum (This is from RSD and its H
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