Struggling with fluidity in seduction

norwegiandoggo · 2025-01-31T21:44:07+00:00

It's partially just down to getting in enough repetitions and stop giving a fuck

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-01-31T22:50:23+00:00

If you want it to become 2nd nature, there’s no way around it but to practice. It sounds you’ve got lots of knowledge regarding the techniques and methods, but all that don’t matter if you don’t put them into practice.

Just like sports, dancing, acting, language, the social skills you need in approaching are no different. The more you practice the more you get the hang of it.

DaygameCode · 2025-01-31T21:48:48+00:00

You over analyze because you let both anxiety and ego dominate your mind. It’s a prison of your own making influenced by the need to fit in and be respected or approved by others, as well as the need to avoid negative outcomes that anxiety predicts will happen if you approach in x or y situation.

You can overcome it with a wing or a coach like me or anyone who lives in your country that pressures you to approach in any situation, until you don’t need him anymore because it finally comes natural to you and who teaches you how to manage anxiety and teaches you how to deal and act if and when a rejection happens..

Wing_Inevitable · 2025-01-31T22:02:42+00:00

Anyone else gone through this?

Yes sorta.

The way I did it.

Your reaction should be different - feel pain instead of anger. And you will auto adjust in like a month. Like make yourself relive the moment till the emotions cause you pain

Anger isn’t a punishing emotions since it is fleeting. (Like happiness)

The less psychotic way which people swear by (It didn’t work for me but niceness was deeply ingrained in me )

Repetition and catching yourself if you do it.

I do recommend the second option since the first one is extreme and frankly has bad side effects (like you could accidentally punish the wrong thing)

Try the second one for about a month of constant approaching and IF it fails - get some supervision to do option 1

HomelessMilkman · 2025-02-01T12:41:00+00:00

It's the need to 'control' the situation.

The more resistant you are towards certain outcomes, the more desperate you are to control the flow away from those outcomes; therefore the more tense and restricted you are, which then depletes mental bandwidth and your ability to operate under pressure.

It's practice, but a focused practice on 'letting go' - especially in situations you feel uncomfortable. If you practice with the intent to monitor, judge, compare, you're just doing the same thing that creates the problem in the first place; the criteria is to be less self-conscious so you're not wasting that energy.

zebekias · 2025-02-01T19:49:35+00:00

It’s a lot like driving at a race track. Studying and knowing the theory is one thing, but it requires a lot of practice and good quality guidance from a fast driver. Find a friend that’s good with girls and go out gaming girls with him.

You will have aha moments, and eventually you will “drive” naturally fast without even thinking much about it. It took me 4-5 years but some get “it” very quickly.

EnvironmentalHome296 · 2025-01-31T23:27:46+00:00

Just have fun man. You probably overthink because you start with the end in mind, meaning you are seeking an outcome, which reflects on your behaviour. Going to socialize should look like the playground for adults. When you were a kid in a playground, you would just be there for the sake of being there. Just be in the moment and think of having fun. The rest will come.

EetinAintCheetin · 2025-02-01T01:14:34+00:00

Stop trying to seduce women.

Title	Struggling with fluidity in seduction
Author	Aynonow
Upvotes	15
Comments	19
Date	January 31, 2025 9:36 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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