Talking about sex casually?

ultrasuperthrowaway · 2014-11-24T14:11:27+00:00

Sex is on everyone's minds especially when 2 attractive individuals of different sex meet.

To actively avoid talking about it is creepy.

ComfortableComa · 2014-11-24T01:27:17+00:00

Nowadays I come of very sexual right away. This is because I want to screen women for this right off the bat. When I didnt do this I found ways to work it into the convo kinda like what you did above. Or... when she'd be sweet and innocent I'd tell her she might be to much of a good girl for me. They usually respond to that as a challenge and say "no im not" or "you'd be suprized" from there you can challenge her more. I had questions that I would ask that would lead to sex.

philosarapter · 2014-11-24T16:44:39+00:00

Its a great topic.

If sex doesn't come up in conversation at least once, you're doing something wrong lol.

recyclablebantha · 2014-11-24T16:39:51+00:00

Is this a good topic to talk about with a girl you're interested in? I figure it either A) makes them start thinking of you as a sexual figure (good) or B) makes them start thinking of you as a playful friend they can gossip about sex with (bad)

There's something you're not taking into account. With girls must walk a cultural line when it comes to satisfying their sexual needs. Girls actually are quite brutal in their enforcement of the idea that girls who act on sexual desires are sluts. We KNOW this. This is the whole reason why you see Last Minute Remorse and Anti-Slut Defense. Girls like to have sex, as we do, but whereas for us it's awesome because sex feels good and reaffirms our manhood, for them, they deal with social repercussions and guilt.

This is why we do things like invite a girl over for "a movie" at our place, when both parties know damn well what's really going to happen. This is why innuendo exists in these sorts of situations: to allow women the freedom to act on sexual desires without feeling like sluts.

And what you're doing by overtly talking about sex, is stripping that ability away from her. So you'll screen out some girls who'd otherwise be DTF, and the ones you'll be left with are the ones who don't care about social consequences. Which sounds great until you realize that such girls usually have nasty issues with self-loathing, personality disorders, and/or sociopathic tendencies. Neither one of which are desirable in a fling or serious relationship.

This idea that talking about sex, leads to sex, is really one of the most unhelpful memes floating around Seddit these days. Of course, if one know what one is doing, then they can compensate, but it takes awhile to be able to do that. This is far from fundamental or necessary and it has a lot of potential to derail your sets and friend-zone you quickly. Especially if you start talking about sex, while lacking the ball to escalate physically or lacking the awareness to establish proper connection before escalating.

Coz7 · 2014-11-24T06:20:09+00:00

I have no idea why you think that being a 'playful friend that they can gossip about sex with' is a bad idea.

gexxx007 · 2014-11-24T18:18:50+00:00

Bring up sex often in your conversations. Break the ice by casually mentioning the length and girth of your dick.

Borax_ · 2014-11-24T19:38:15+00:00

Any way to do this with virtually no experience? I dont even talk about sex with my close friends, its a topic that I was never physically introduced to, rather something that was taboo.

Title	Talking about sex casually?
Author	garbageeater
Upvotes	23
Comments	18
Date	November 24, 2014 12:33 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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