So.

You suffer from crippling anxiety.

You're on this sub asking questions about elusive advanced techniques, and yet you haven't even worked up the strength to do step one.

I know crippling.

How about puking all over your classroom floor because you were too nervous to get up and walk out in front of everyone?

How about replying with an unintelligible noise when asked for your date of birth?

How about sitting like a statue, avoiding eye comtact, and saying nothing even while your crush essentially threw herself at you?

Has your brain ever just seized up on you out of pure terror?

So you're socially awkward.

Well.

That's okay. There's a way around that. There's a way out of your crippling anxiety and your fumbling of words. This way is nothing more than practice.

With practice comes experience.

With experience comes skill.

With skill comes confidence.

And confidence alongside time produces mastery.

So recently, I charged myself with a goal.

I would approach one hundred girls, and by the one hundred first, my fear would no longer exist. I would not try to get dates, numbers, anything. I would have no intent to get something out of it.

This is NOT the "100 Sets" thing where guys go out and try to get 100 different dates. This is entirely different as it's goal is to remove the fear of approaching and literally nothing more.

Completely disconnected from the outcome, I would approach.

The first one took every goddamn ounce of willpower I possessed in the recesses of my soul. I have done few things in my life that have proven more difficult than that.

The first two were awkward, fumbling messes, but I noticed that the girls were not repulsed, but actually rather happy that I had decided to chat with them.

The third approach was a double approach. They were talking about bands I liked, so it was easy.

By the fourth approach I realized that, instead of a premeditated act of sheer willpower, I had done it nonchalantly, simply because I wanted to, nothing more.

After a while, you'll begin to subconsciously learn things about conversation. You'll learn that she's likely more nervous than you. You'll learn that girls like to chat. You'll learn that silences in the conversation are okay and don't always need to be filled. You'll learn that people talk too so you actually don't have to be ready with an infinite repertoire of convo topics. You'll stop caring about the outcome. You'll learn to enjoy the moments and not become attached to them. You'll free yourself from the trap of your own head.

But you have to. There is no shortcut. There is no magic pill, no holy mantra. The first few will be some of the hardest fucking things you've ever done in your entire life, but it will get easier.

You have to get off your ass, shut off the motivational videos and the RSD infeilds. You have to get up and do something. If you don't you'll always be a failure, now and forevermore.

Be the five percent that actually does something, and when you're living your best life drowning in pussy, no need to thank me.