Hey y'all

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I have been talking to this girl for a few days. We bonded at first because we talked about our childhood trauma together. I had her over to my place a couple days ago. The conversation was great. We talked for about an hour and ended up making out on my couch. I then told her it was time to go because it was super late - I'm in college. I felt super comfortable around her and was saying anything that came to my mind. I found out she's a feminist - I sometimes would make jokes about women's rights and all of that to neg - maybe that was too much. I then took her out to eat today. Another similar experience. I was not scared to be myself around her and say whatever came to my mind. I didn't make any bold moves here because I don't want to make out in public. I was also hesitant sometimes to initiate intimacy. Either way, she hit me with a big friend zone right after I paid for her food and everything (this made me especially mad because she talked before about how she believes in gender equality and she didn't want me to pay for her). Are some girls just not going to like you no matter what and it's totally out of your control? Do I need to do a better job of listening to her and playing to her psyche?