168 approaches in... Advice?

self_journey · 2019-06-25T15:01:03+00:00

Dude this is great progress! Way way way more than I've done. It's still a beginning stage though, most girls will flake that's just the sad truth of the matter. It still takes massive balls to do 168 approaches in the last month alone!

Where do you do these approaches and what your typical approach is like?

hazelstein · 2019-06-25T17:41:28+00:00

168 approaches per month . . . that rivals the homeless dude asking people at a stoplight if they want their windshield cleaned.

But seriously, that's a shitload of approaches.

Joysharma · 2019-06-25T14:47:06+00:00

Fuck thats good bro nice improvement keep it up!

warm_theory · 2019-06-25T15:10:34+00:00

In my opinion you're putting way too much effort on approaches. The more you focus on approaching the more valuable they become to you, thus putting you in that needy state in search of daily validation which overall makes you look less and less attractive - adding up to more rejections.

Make yourself the priority and keep investing on those kind of healthy habits you mentioned. I'm not telling you to stop approaching all together but rather just go for the ones you really feel attracted instead of going towards any girl you pass by.

darksidessj25 · 2019-06-25T16:51:52+00:00

That's fucking awesome. Let it go bro and keep going. Don't hold onto negativity. Be in the present moment and just take it all in and you will want to continue. You need to develop your inner game and get rid of your ego. You still have a lot of that to work on that I'm seeing in what you are typing. You are basing your happiness on the girl. You should be making the girl happy!

Be congruent with your thoughts, words, and actions. Shut off the logical mind and express your emotions while talking to someone. If you go up to a girl all depressed she will sense that and not engage with you as much. Emotions are highly contagious. Instead, go up to her in a joyful/happy state without the need for her approval. Whatever you want to say let it out without any resistance as long as it fits your character.
Read the http://www.yogebooks.com/english/atkinson/1908kybalion.pdf Essential you wanna be at the cause and not the effect of things. Stay in your own lane and don't let any negative emotion come up. If you do it will show in the next set. If you're in a constant state of happiness you will attract those kinds of people.
Always go back to presence! This is big, so fucking big my friend. Whenever there is a vibration present such as a sound, noise, feeling, sensation, wind, focus in on that and let whatever arises rise. Do this whenever you talk to a girl and just be out of your head throughout the interaction. I don't think when I talk to one. I just express myself and "SHARE" my vibe.
Share and collaborate with them. You're there to offer value and not just take.

WIA20XX · 2019-06-25T19:01:32+00:00

What's your journal look like?

FitAttention9 · 2019-06-25T15:27:11+00:00

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Imperator_Pyra · 2019-06-25T16:14:50+00:00

168 approaches in a month?! I probably did less this whole year thus far. WTF, that's some massive action, my friend. Congratulate yourself on that. Amazing. As far as your question itself - I don't really have good advice, all I can say is that how you feel about yourself should come from within, not be dependent on validation from strangers.

FitAttention9 · 2019-06-25T22:23:52+00:00

It seems like you got 1/3rd to convert to contact info this is great. I think your texting/snapchat game needs MUCH better work. The conversion from 41 -> 3 is dogshit. Your problem seems to lie there unless the girls giving you their contact info weren't turned on by you at all and gave yo their info for you to fuck off. In which case you need to work on YOURSELF

thepontiff_ · 2019-06-25T22:25:07+00:00

I don’t know man I’m not trying to have 168 stories to watch on SC plus those girls could unfriend you and use you to boost their friends list

2019-06-26T03:31:55+00:00

Here's some "truth":

First, working out (muscles), clothes (style), conversation (stuff in common), personality, or any"inner" or "outer" game is bullshit. You've been lied to and people are continuing to lie to you (unconsciously) to stroke your ego with empty statements and false accolades. You've achieved nothing. You're wasting your time.

Second, women are 'brushing you off' because they can FEEL you're gaming them. You're not being your true, authentic self. You lack POWER and SEXUAL PRESENCE. Without it you're going 'nowhere'. In fact, the only reason those 2 women have any interest in you is because THEY are interested in you, not because YOU are. It was a glitch in your matrix that worked out (currently) in your favor, yet you still associate that tiny success with "game".

I shit you not, women can literally FEEL your masculine POWER in 5 seconds or less. I see it with my own eyes every time I go out to run errands. It's quite incredible to see how their bodies respond, react, how they bite their lip, start 'dancing on cue', give you that "come here, stare, boy" look, etc. All this in a matter of seconds.

Third, stop approaching. Give it a rest. If you value yourself and your time, let women give YOU the signal/sign to approach. Let HER choose YOU, then YOU decide if you want to move forward or not. I'm not saying to stop going out and socialize. You got that down to a science. Now you need to work on being a man.

This might sound offensive, but women aren't responding because they don't feel your masculine nature. Your MASCULINE ENERGY is what makes you a real man - not cars, clothes, game, muscle body, money, or whatever else bullshit society "says" makes you a man. Not even "confidence" makes you a man. Your natural born masculine nature and sexual presence which "triggers" their sexual feminine nature is what makes you manly. If they can't feel your masculine core, it's literally as if you don't exist. You're invisible to them.

Fourth, you're overly invested in any outcome. You're not secure in yourself and your own manhood. Some guys say, "If you keep approaching, eventually it'll click!", but there are men who have 1000's of approaches and MAYBE have sex with a handful. Is the juice worth squeeze?

So, how do you 'fix' this. How do you get this area of your life handled?

Some guys mentioned "meditation". That's okay, I guess. But that's pointless. Sure, it'll make you SPIRITUALLY present, but not SEXUALLY present. Huge difference.

You become sexually present by meditating to natural, feminine alpha women.

Right now, you still think you want to get "laid", but what you really want is connection. You see women and think "get laid" as you put it. You think "skin".

A woman's TRUE SEXUAL NATURE has NOTHING to do with her body. It has everything to do with her feminine nature; her energy. A womans TRUE sexuality is her FLIRTING (not teasing, as society conditioned us to). EVERY potential relationship begins with that. If SHE is not flirting with YOU (not YOU with HER), it's going NO WHERE - I don't give a damn how good you think SHE looks, if she doesn't FEEL your power, there's NOTHING IN IT FOR HER. She has something you want (body; sexy; beauty; etc.) yet, you're like an empty shell - you have masculine core she can react to, so her default is to "reject".

This particular meditation is called "Natural Grounding", where you're meditating to natural women who are expressing true, feminine sexuality. It's NOTHING like you see on social media, commercials, porn, tv, movies, etc. In fact, if you really want to change your reality with women, you'll need to also eliminate ALL of those media outlets from your life completely. Get rid of it. It screws with your masculine energy makes you feminine.

Watch this video. It will change your life.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=it79dPC3egE

If you cry to it, you're on the right path. I cried when I first saw it, and the next day women were literally 'jumping in my way' to get my attention. Shit was crazy. As much as a womans body is on display today, woman are HEAVILY sexually repressed. What we THINK is female sexuality, is actually serious suppression. So, a man who finally "gets it". A man who KNOWS the true, brings that truth 'out of them', and they light up like Christmas trees.

This is the secret of the naturals. They 'escaped the matrix', refused to listen and follow society, now society calls them "assholes", "bad boys", "players", and all this non-sense when, in reality, they are more 'manly' then most men who give them shit. They're more "evolved" inspite of their socially repulsive behaviour.

Natural Grounding (meditating to real, feminine sexuality) brings out the masculine sexual nature in you. It happens automatically. You can't logically process this.

There are plenty of good sources available on this meditation practice. Dig up more information yourself.

...or, continue 'gaming', 'sarging', and approaching women to 'maybe' get laid a handful of times for your hard work and efforts.

Attraction is a NATURAL process; not a "skill". Drop the game. Drop the approaches. Meditate to real femine energy and your life will change.

I wish you all the best.

Side note:

Having sexual presence and a strong masculine nature is literally like crack cocaine to women.

If you think you get turned on by a hot body, women get turned on by hot MASCULINE ENERGY 3x as much. They can't resist it. They're drawn into it; pulled into it. I've seen women treat one man like shit and turn around and treat me like a God/King such as giving me free food/meals, favors, love, affection, etc. Shit I didn't ask for or want, but offered to me anyway. They become very submissive. The actual physical act of sex itself is like a "bonus" compared to all women give you when you tap into their secret.

But, because most men think with their dicks, and not with their hearts and souls, they leave women disappointed; stranded on a island.

Aeon199 · 2019-06-26T05:36:48+00:00

or that no SUPER hot girls want to go on dates with me, etc.

Why would they? Not saying you're not worthy of it, but when you consider the fact that women 5'0" tall and just modestly attractive could simply head to any one of 15 dating sites and pick out the best guy (the one most attractive, best paid, most socially exuberant) and meet that guy the next day, why would they? "Just pick one out" and the only rule is, he has to be the best. Nothing else matters.
Welcome to the dating world, bruh. That's how it works, at least that's how it works today.

The most attractive women only ever choose the very best guys. The most social, the best paid, the strongest resume. The reason is, because they can afford to.

Average women don't even want average guys. Just how it works these days. Certainly doesn't bode well for the increasing number of autistic men, who are basically "non-competitors" in life. We're the "bargain bin" scrap that no one wants--we're tossed to the curb, don't exist, etc. There's no point for me to enter the Game--genetic crap is what it is, it's not needed, especially not in the competitive dating world. That part's not about you, it's about me. Just saying, anyway.

Regardless of all this, I still wish you luck.

hazelstein · 2019-06-26T12:09:42+00:00

Fcking wonderful dude. With this rate, you are well above most of the guys here. KEEP IT UP.
Now for the advice why u r not getting f-close

Women sense the vibes that you are not on your purpose. Finding your purpose, reading books and working out are steps towards your purpose, not the purpose.
Get on your purpose. Maybe take a break from approaching, put full on focus on getting on that purpose. Bitches are the by-product. not the product.

Title	168 approaches in... Advice?
Author	FitAttention9
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Comments	40
Date	June 25, 2019 2:45 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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