Tinder. Coming on too strong?

Friendly_B · 2016-05-29T08:12:23+00:00

You're texting too much. How many hours do you need to talk about the weather through texting?

the-capitan · 2016-05-29T12:20:10+00:00

After about 4 hours of good conversation

what the fucking fuck?

the girls who string you through this shit are not looking to fuck. they're not even looking to meet. they're beta-orbiter collectors just looking for attention. if you don't have confirmation of time + place for meeting for drinks in the first 10 messages (total, between you and her), you're doing something wrong.

if you're worried about qualifying them (no weirdos who live in the fucking boonies, no single mothers, no vegans, no whatever-the-fuck-you-care-about), get their number and get a meeting set up like 3-5 days out. then chat them up a few times on the wait and cancel if she's no good.

the amount of your time that these collectors will waste is fucking huge. repeat after me, "i am not an emotional tampon"

LtWorf_ · 2016-05-29T11:01:45+00:00

Why did you have to say to call her jane if you mentioned "jane" only once?

takethedive · 2016-05-29T08:26:33+00:00

Well, from another perspective, I'm a heavy texter. I love text flirting, I use it to build up tons of anticipation and I think it's equally valid in terms of seduction, but the risk is that if you give away the mystery then there's nothing to find out by meeting you in person. If you're going to text frequently, why not try pre-seeding the interaction very early with indicators that you'll meet? ("What are your hobbies?" "If we gush about our stories now, what will we have to talk about when we meet? + by the way, coffee or tea?" is a frequent exchange that applies to pretty much any question that filters for receptive girls and lays my intentions out in an attractive way, at least with my own style.) Perhaps you could try something along those lines and see how it works for you?

youlovejoeDesign · 2016-05-29T17:38:22+00:00

What the fuck...this girl obviously needs mad attention...let's talk for five hours..hey let's meet..whoa....too strong buddy...coffee??? Creep!!

ValencePUA · 2016-05-29T14:31:35+00:00

I figured this wasn't going anywhere and said something along the lines of: "it was nice talking with you, take care". She responds with saying that I'm a cool guy but I'm coming on too strong and that a lot if girls would feel the same way.

You posted a lot but let's get this out of the way. What she said is total BS. She was either using you emotionally because she was bored, was a catfisher, or something else out of the ordinary. Tinder is a medium for meeting other people in person, not for making pen pals.

Were you texting too much? Yes. But that's the only problem I see here.

When a gal matches on Tinder you want to be asking for that meet up within your first ~5 messages. This way the girls who are just fucking around get weeded out fast.

You should be having long conversations with girls on dates, not through text/Tinder.

Supatroopa_ · 2016-05-29T13:17:06+00:00

I'm literally new to this sub reddit but after looking at the basic links, you're not being the alpha male. Your attitude sounds like you need to get this girl, rather than who cares if I get this girl or not, I have other chicks on the line.

It's like fishing. You don't just keep winding the line in or it will snap. Let her run a little and try and figure out what you are doing. She's in your head, not the other way around.

ROCKSTARMANIC · 2016-05-31T17:28:56+00:00

This is actually inverted if understand this OP. She coming on too strong. she insisted you talk to her more, attention freak. No good..

lofiharvest · 2016-06-06T17:14:49+00:00

This girl is a time waster. Move on.

CbProdz · 2016-05-29T13:35:28+00:00

Something no one has brought up yet... Can it be that the person you are talking to is not the person in the pictures?? Can it be that a not so good looking person might be using somebody else's pictures on Tinder? Not to meet up, not to Skype sounds kind of shady on a dating app

Title	Tinder. Coming on too strong?
Author	mrfunnyman21
Upvotes	6
Comments	16
Date	May 29, 2016 7:41 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/4ljm5a/tinder_coming_on_too_strong/
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