(Tinder) I've done everything perfectly, but everytime I ask for their number or snap, they stop replying.

bolxrex · 2018-04-10T21:25:48+00:00

What's the point of getting a phone number. You have a direct line into their phone via the app. Getting the number is useless anymore. You have to re-open the conversation all over again. I can't remember the last time I asked for a number via an app before meeting someone.

Set up the date through the app, meet up, and if it goes well you can ask for the number right before a k-close or something to that effect. This has the additional benefits of being mysterious. Many times I've had women mention to me that they spoke to their girlfriends about how they thought it was odd that I never asked for the number via whatever app before meeting. All of the sudden instead of analyzing texts with their girlfriends they are trying to figure me out. Use the mystery to your advantage.

Kenic_In_MD · 2018-04-10T21:06:21+00:00

Instead of asking for a number set up a date either that night or a specific day, the number should be a by-product of planning a date with her.

Lord_Augastus · 2018-04-10T23:24:35+00:00

Tinder is cancer. Go meet real people, they will give you their number if there is a connection. On tinder, like.msot online dating is a headache clusterfuck and fcking odd. try to chat a girl up after matching but realise she has thay similar convo on a daily basis.

Remember tinder for men isnt the same tinder as its for women. Men swipe on everyone, women choose. And even when they choose they dont really care, as they can swipe right on almost everyone and get matched. So from their perspective not only an abundance mindset is created, but bruteforce expirience with talking to a these matches makes them should i say, disentisied to any connection you may see. They get friendly good convos on a regular basis, and even when a convo is good, doesnt mean that she will like the person when she gets to meet him. So from her perspective you can be a really good bullshitter.

I suggest you try to migrate to snapchat, or fb, or insta first. This way, she can see real pictures, not a curated tinder profile, and then decide if she likes you.

Think of tinder as a multi-step application process to her attention. Step on visual attactiveness, she likes what she sees swipe right. Then step two initial convo, something that grabs her interest, something thats both familiar and yet novel inough to capture her interest. Same old pick up lines are borish. Step three if you get past step two(and thats arguably the most random of all steps, as its not based on merit but on luck that yous strike gold on a whim), she gets to know you, aka real you a bit more. Then step four regular chats via that other platform and eventually txt message a direct way to chat that nobody really uses unless its friends or family just like calling.

Now step 3 and onwards can be negated if you find something reallly in common that strikes her interests and you two can chat about for a long time and again inject enough novelty that she is interested in chatting back.

Also, I like to avoid the latter and outright state my intentions in opening messages on tinder. If her profile states she wants a relationship, means early trigger on her phone number will result in labelling you a fuck boi. If she is after sex, early number request will make you too eager and thus not alpha for sexy times. (Now, the afformentioned is negated in sercumstances of difference in attractiveness. If she is horny and you are in another league, it is way easier for you to make her chase you, but this is online dating. And in online dating, perceptions are skewed. 8become 10s 10s are unnatainable for us mortals etc. If you are a 7 expect to match with a lot of 5s and 6s and still jump through hopps just to meet them).

Finally, most of the time tinder is seen as a hookup app for a reason. So if a woman agrees to give you her number and even meet up, expect that she is ready to have sex but sex is not guaranteed as you still have to build attraction, flirt, connect. Unless you match up purely for sex, then it becomes a hell of a lot easier.

Wanted to add, what others have said. Dont diddle around as in the last paragraph, tinder is more of a hookup app, so get repour quickly and set up a date asap. Be direct, lead. If you spend too much time just trying to chat, you are wasting time. Then once you irl date, you can see where it goes. But because of the date you can get her number. Nobody expects to find true love on tinder purely through messages. And if you were direct enough with your intentions, she will be reluctant to want more chats she gets enough of already.

jamiegandolf · 2018-04-10T22:23:18+00:00

As someone else suggested, first establish a date where you two physically meet. This works best into casually leading into the number. Once they agree to a date to meet, it's pretty obvious at that point that you two now need to share numbers to communicate about the meeting place, who's there first, where they currently are, and all that.

First establish that you want to meet. That will lead into the phone number and you won't waste your time as much because you'll know right off the bat if they are interested or not.

Also, I've found it best to ask about meeting within the first 14 messages (7 from you, 7 from her) and even then, that might be a bit much in some cases. Lots of people nowadays get tired of talking without seeing the other person unless you really like the person.

Pidjesus · 2018-04-10T21:05:46+00:00

They clearly weren't interested in you enough, maybe you aren't reading signs well enough

Challenger25 · 2018-04-10T22:49:03+00:00

Hinge put out a blog post that said the average number of messages exchanged before the conversation moved off the app was 15(total). If you're trying to move off app before that point the girl might feel uncomfortable and they'll just ghost you rather than saying no.

John-lovestosposh · 2018-04-11T03:48:44+00:00

Don't sweat it so much because it's all about looks kinda ,Tinder is child's play and should be more of a side hustle .

Go out and cold approach .

Title	(Tinder) I've done everything perfectly, but everytime I ask for their number or snap, they stop replying.
Author	Deadpoolsnephew
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Date	April 10, 2018 8:59 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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