Tip on how to proceed with next steps following connection

DaygameCode · 2024-05-10T00:34:15+00:00

I felt like I wanted to ask for her number. But we were in the dental office setting, and it felt off.

Bad call. What you need to do is act as if it’s absolutely normal. What you feel she feels, if you act like you feel asking her number is the most normal reasonable thing a man could ever do in a situation like that, she will accept it. If you act like it’s weird uncalled for, or like you have to say sorry for being so daring then she will feel it’s inappropriate. So it depends on your tone.

I also thought about calling back the office and asking to speak with her for "follow up treatment" questions -- maybe ask a few things here and there.

Yes that’s good.

And then drop a question about if she'd like to get together or spend time together.

Never ask women if they’d like to do something sometime.

Instead always invite them to something specific that excites them to go on a date you choose, be decisive, lead, assume she would love to and lead by telling her “i think you are cute, and i want to take you out to this “x place/activity” this Saturday afternoon, come join, it will be fun”

When you ask “wanna do something someday?” the default answer might be “yes, some day” but it’s not a genuine commitment and leads usually to flakes.

I'm honestly thinking about getting up some business cards made,

Ugh, no. Why do so many out of touch men keep thinking this is a good idea in the 21st century? Who the heck goes around giving business cards? Who even calls to anyone who gives a business card? Leave business cards in the 20th century. Business cards are for business, for dating you take a woman’s number, and call/text them.

You are the man, you take the initiative to call, and you don’t treat women the same way you would treat a business partner.

If your thinking is “because that way if she is interested she will give me a call” then you simply don’t understand that women will not chase 99% of the time even if they are somewhat interested in a guy. The woman expects a man to be a man, they don’t wanna take on the role of the pursuer unless you happen to be an incredible catch like a famous person or millionaire that they simply can’t miss out on.

Bonus is can also serve as a bit of a cope out if they're not feeling it -- the business card hand off gives us the chance to continue communicating (personally if desired).

The typical men logic fails to understand women 100% and dating dynamics. Women don’t call. Women expect a man to call. Giving a woman your number specially on a business card is basically asking for her to throw the cars away as soon as you are gone, because a woman simply hates the idea of being the one who chases a guy. It’s beneath them, specially if they are attractive. The vast majority of them don’t like it.

I could also just play the long game here lol (6 mo) as I built some good rapport and connection.

While you play the long game she will fuck and kiss 5 other guys, and you’ll never know that because she won’t tell you or let you or anyone else find out. And yes she will do it no matter how innocent or different you think she is. Women nowadays don’t spend months (specially 6 months) without getting laid.

Person6550 · 2024-05-10T00:37:10+00:00

I think you missed the moment honestly. And that was your shot. It just becomes awkward after that. I wouldn't be too much of a try hard on this. If you could run into her somehow and things strike up, that could work. Otherwise, I'd say don't stress over her and let things flow. There are a million others you'll run into every day. And some day when you're back there, if the magic happens again, be ready. But don't waste all your brain and time thinking about her right now when you won't even naturally be seeing her anytime soon.

TRTGymBro1 · 2024-05-09T23:41:42+00:00

Just call the office and ask to speak to her or to have her call you back and leave your number. Then when you get in touch, say "Hey, I didn't want to put you on the spot in front of your coworkers, but I would like to take you out on a proper date and get to know you better.

Fuzzy-Bottle-4138 · 2024-05-10T03:45:15+00:00

Dentists are similar to doctors where having relationships with patients is a very serious matter. It goes against the codes of ethics, in some places there can be legal ramifications, it goes against their codes of conduct, it’s extremely unethical and many doctors and dentists offices have rules in place that forbid them from dating patients and if they disobey there are grounds for termination of their jobs. In some cases you can even lose your license and be forbidden from practicing medicine forever.

If you were not her patient or met her outside of work it would be fine and this would be a different matter. But in this case I would just forget about it and move on. Even if she was somewhat attracted to you, 99% of people in these professions would never even consider it because of how risky it is and how they could literally destroy their entire lives and everything they’ve worked for up to this point.

ROBYoutube · 2024-05-09T23:44:05+00:00

No. No. No. No. No. If she is on the clock, leave her the fuck alone. You want to ask her out? Wait until you meet her somewhere where her decision making isn't influenced by losing her fucking job. Jesus christ.

Title	Tip on how to proceed with next steps following connection
Author	nurture420
Upvotes	1
Comments	25
Date	May 9, 2024 10:26 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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