Tips to prepare for harsh rejection?

Ntx_skarface · 2019-12-12T17:09:26+00:00

We had a special nigth when we where like 16, 3 friends go to a club in an area of the city we usually dont go to party. And we dare each other to open girls with silly overused openers, stupid accents and all kind of crazy shit. As a reward if you do it you get a drink paid by your buddies, most stupid opener or situation the better the drink. So you get more drunk and brave and get into more crazy openers for more drinks. Like "you have to aproach those 5 hotties and you can only comunicate with animal sounds, or talk like a pirate" after that, engagin in normal conversation with a girl next weekend feel like easy mode.

hunterpua · 2019-12-12T08:38:51+00:00

Clearly define good and bad while you're still at home, before you go approaching girls.

If you don't clearly define it then you'll look to them to define good and bad for you.

Doing that is flawed logic because you don't know whether the one defining it for you is a good or bad person themselves.

So if you approach them with politness and they tell you, "Fuck off you're disgusting!" you'll think you did a bad thing and think of yourself as a bad person which will make you feel like shit if you don't define anything.

However, if you had initially defined a polite approach as a good thing and an approach where you stick your finger up their pussy as a bad thing then you will see that its the girl who has the problem, not you, because you know what's good and bad and you didn't do anything bad but then she acted that way.

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TheXXL · 2019-12-12T13:34:46+00:00

I know rejection is inevitable but I’m legit scared just because women are not always nice about it

Who told you that? And how many times have you experienced that? The majority of women who rejected me throughout my life were nice about it, usually "I have a boyfriend" and that's it.

and that’s gonna hurt no matter how brave of a face you put on

It only does if you truly care about some strangers opinion. Why should you give two shits? If she's rejecting you, she is not interested for whatever reason, you don't know, and even if it is something personal, why should you care?

Look. I think the problem with the millenial generation (I assume you are one of them) is that you never had to stand up for yourselves, your parents were bulldozing everything out of your way, so you don't know how to deal with the hardships of life, and that is truly sad. Dealing with those things is a necessity for your whole life, and starting with it as soon as possible will make things much easier for you. So... go out there, try to get as many rejections as possible, and realize they don't fucking matter! They don't define you as a human person, not even as a man.

Just because you are not one of those 1% super sought after men who rarely get rejected, doesn't mean that you are worth less. Approach, get rejected, learn, repeat. You will start to not care after a couple dozen rejections. Harden yourself, it will not kill you.

Atriev · 2019-12-12T08:17:32+00:00

You don’t prepare for it. The act of preparing for it is already a problem because your mindset is wrong.

And to add: I also don’t even consider shit tests as tests. I enjoy being shit tested.

If you prepare for rejection, you’re coming into the set with approach pessimism.

zaryaguy · 2019-12-12T09:59:16+00:00

If she isn't nice about it you should be happy that you didn't get involved with a cunt

Title	Tips to prepare for harsh rejection?
Author	GoldSmith64
Upvotes	3
Comments	8
Date	December 12, 2019 6:26 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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