to anyone saying this stuff is easy, it's the hardest thing you'll ever fucking do

Turlast · 2016-07-24T18:06:00+00:00

At the end of the day, it's easier for some guys and harder for others. We all have our own path, so we just have to make the most of it.

ThrowawayPUA · 2016-07-24T21:09:41+00:00

Changing your life is difficult, but you have to do it.

There's an old budhist doctrine about the difficulty of becoming enlightened, which is difficult compared to "easy acts." Those easy acts are things like running through a field of fire forever with a bundle of straw on your back without catching fire, to kick the Earth into a different orbit with your toe, and to wear down a mountain into a pebble by rubbing it with a feather once a year.

fitzlykaglove · 2016-07-24T18:46:48+00:00

I defentally agree with that, it is really hard to try and find words & have a conversation with someone you don't know, it probably still feels like your doing the wrong thing, you need to find your self again after a long term relationship, because that's all you knew was with that one person you were in love with. It will just take time & you need to build your conference back up again. Good luck

panamalcohol · 2016-07-24T23:23:18+00:00

Had the worst night so far last night. It suck. Good to know I'm not the only one having off days. And it is hard to keel going when in one has not had a win in a while. Just stick in there bro.

ElMariachi7 · 2016-07-25T00:41:13+00:00

Bro!!! You story is the same as mine! You're not alone! I broke with my ex 6 months ago. It was brutal man. After 2 months of grieving, I decided ton go out there. I never asked girls out front. I starTed to cold approach lots of girls. It was exciting! But then, as I approached more girls, I realized I wasn't getting results. I didn't have anyone to point out what I was doing wrong. My success on going dates was 1 out of 20. Neither cases I got laid. I was self'loathing a bit. I thought to myself "What is wrong with me? Am I that unworthy of being with women?' Pure dejection man. It took me a little less than 2 weeks but I had an epiphany. Girl will never ask me out on a date! Ok, it sounds depressing saying that but it's the truth. Only about once a year will a woman go to me and say she likes me. I refuse to wait around for a girl to like me and go up to me. Your success is more like a wave than linear. You have your ups and downs. To be honest, I'm still struggling. I could go on but I'll stop here. It is emotionally draining man. I feel you. If you ever wanna talk, message me! We will persevere!

n00b_f00 · 2016-07-25T01:53:06+00:00

This is all good advice. But also consider that if you're getting burnt out because of your outcome dependence, and it's hurting your game. You might want to take a break rather than powering through. If you were on a workout regimen, and your shoulder really hurt. Would you just keep working around it, while it went back and forth between almost getting better and then really hurt again, or would you take off a week and see if it recovered?

Honestly that's up to you to answer. You might also want to start approaching chicks in different scenes. Maybe you'd prefer to mack on chicks at conventions, meet ups, concerts, book stores. Places with a different vibe might reinvigorate you.

recyclablebanthas · 2016-07-25T02:54:25+00:00

i just broke up with my ex a few months ago

How long were you with them?

i went out twice, second night i got a number of a really cute girl and we hit it off and i saw her for about a month before i decided i didn't want to see her anymore cause she was driving me nuts

Always good to know you can discriminate according to your standards because it can be easy for people to just fall into the next thing out of desperation and loneliness.

this week i went out three times, third night i couldn't stay in the club for more than an hour.

Why?

. i'm at the point now where i can open legit any conversation and i feel like i'm so close to getting somewhere but i just miss it barely every time and it's been driving me insane.

What kind of "somewhere" is eluding you?

it might've been me, it might've been the girls i approached and my high standard for myself to get something done

Probably.

...... even a 10 will give you 20-30 seconds of her time if you just don't crumble beneath her feet.

then you're like shit, what the fuck do i do now?

Nothing changes, really. You're still going to go for girls who fit you. The thing is, guys get wrapped up in getting a girl who represents bragging rights, rather than one congruent with who they are.

try putting together a puzzle while you're missing a piece and there is an overload of info out there and none of it is relevant to your exact situation

but i realized something, i legit felt like a robot after a while saying the same shit.....

This could be a problem if it continues. It shouldn't be as much of a problem if you're coming at people with situational openers.

Doing this gives you so many different openers and conversations..... Enough variety to help your sanity.

Or are you already opening situationally?

BuyerOfCoins · 2016-07-24T18:09:11+00:00

Ask yourself this: If it would be easy, would it still be fun or challenging to do? If it would be easy, you have nothing to learn any more.
Dont say the same shit ooover and oover again. Thats indeed boring both for you and the girl. Keep it fun, entertain yourself.

Title	to anyone saying this stuff is easy, it's the hardest thing you'll ever fucking do
Author	Justachillday
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Date	July 24, 2016 5:00 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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