*Please note the following post is my OPINION. I happen to think it's the right opinion and I personally follow this in my personal life, but in the end it's not the OBJECTIVE truth. It's just what I do and clients/friends of mine do and we get pretty good results*

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I hate all the information about “text game” that is out right now.  THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS TEXT GAME!  There are no magic words you can say through any medium that will magically change the dynamics of how sexual relationships happen.  The large majority of the time, all the effort you are putting into “text game” is completely inconsequential to the actual result.  If anything, I would say that focusing too much on “text game” actually HURTS guys most of the time.  It makes them second guess things, it makes them too overly judgmental/self-conscious about what they say, it makes them too roundabout and indirect and take forever to move things forward, and it usually REDUCES any attraction/interest that has been built, not increase it.

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I have seen the ways that several different guys text (that actually get laid in real life, not some bullshit theory online), all of them with different personalities and preferences and ways they go out getting laid, and the things that they all have in common is that they text in a way that is mostly just normal conversation and they move the interaction forward.  Literally just doing those two things covers pretty much 100% of what you need to know about texting.  You don’t need “emotional spikes” or “qualifying” and you don’t need to “make her invest”.

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I'm going to break down what's actually important when texting, and then I will give you the actual texting format that I use. I will also have example conversations from girls I've done on dates with. And a bonus one from one of my clients who set up a date using pretty much the exact format I'm going to outline.

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There's two main mindsets you need to have when texting a girl after an approach (and really even after the first, second, third etc date until you guys get more comfortable with each other)

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- Girls will view your texts through the lens of how they viewed you on the approach

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- You need to be moving the convo towards setting up a date

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If you remember just these two things, you will mostly be fine with how you text. Ok I'll explain both of these a little more in-depth.

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Girls will view your texts through the lens of how they viewed you on the approach. This means that you don't need to TRY to come off a certain way through your texts, because she already has a conception of who you are. If she thought you were charming, she will ascribe that charm to your texts. If she thought you were funny and you guys vibed real well, she will ascribe that vibe to your texts.

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This should take a lot of mental pressure off you because it means that you don't have to do all these intricate texting games and lines and other bullshit. You can mostly just be normal (even slightly boring) and if won't matter that much because she will attribute hey positive conception of you to the texts.

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Now there is a downside to this. This also means that if she viewed you as UNconfident, or didn't like you, or just didn't have any positive associations with you, that she will also attribute those to your texts. So that means that the best way to improve your "text game" is to improve how you come across in the ACTUAL INTERACTION you have before getting her number.

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So what this all means is that her mind is ALREADY MADE UP about whether she is going to go on a date with you (very large majority of the time). If she already views you positively, she already wants to go on a date so there's no reason to implement "text game" to come off a certain way. She ALREADY LIKES YOU! On the flip side, if she has already decided she doesn't want to go on a date (there's a myriad of reasons for this, most of them not having anything to do with you), no amount of "text game" will change her mind. Her conception of you in person will always override however you try to come across over text. She's not going to think you are not charming, and then you say a "charming" thing through text, and now she views you as charming. If anything she'll view you even less charming, because now to her you're just a not charming person trying to be charming and it will, to her, come across as weird and unnatural.

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So then how do you text then? YOU TEXT LIKE YOU DO WITH EVERYONE ELSE. Literally. Just text her like a normal human being and let the conception she has of you from the approach do the rest.

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Okay on to the next thing. You want to be moving the conversation forward toward setting up the date. But you want to do it in a conversational way. I call this "conversational forward texting" (super clever I know). The basic concept is that you want to pretty much have a normal conversation, but have all or most of your texts say something that move the conversation forward.

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I have tested out both ways of texting. I've been super conversational and waited till "the right time" to ask the girl out on a date, and I've also been just super direct and short with no filler when I ask a girl on a date. I had some success with both, but this one seems to have the highest success rate of all three.

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The basic format is that you ask her out, but you break it up into chunks. So instead of saying "are you free on Friday at 7?" you break it up into 3-5 different texts. I'll show you what I mean in the format below.

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*Right after getting number*

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Me: Troy (yes JUST my first name and that's it, you can put other stuff in there if you want and it's more congruent to your personality, but it doesn't increase conversion rates, yes I've tested this)

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*Next day or every once in a while I'll do it later that night*

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Me: Hey what did you end up doing the rest of the day? (Or you can do a callback like "hey did you find that candle shop" or whatever thing she talked about)

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Her: *Response*

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Me: Nice, (acknowledge or respond to what she just said in some way). What do you have going on this week?

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Her: Response

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Me: *Respond to what she said*. Are you free this weekend/week/whatever days to grab a drink?

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*Or if she gave her availability in previous text*

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Cool, you down to grab a drink on (whatever day she's free)?

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Her: *Some variation of* Yeah that sounds good, where we going?

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Me: Blah blah place has some badass margaritas. How's around 730 sound/does around 730 sound good?

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Her: *Agrees in some way*

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Me: Awesome, see you then. Don't work too hard (or some other thing related to what she's doing that week).

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*If date is 3 or more days away, send following text in the afternoon day before*

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Me: Hey I'll be done working tomorrow around (time 2 hours before date) then I'll get ready and head over. Is 730 still good?

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Her: Yes

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Me: Awesome see you then/tomorrow.

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*Then day of about 90 minutes before date*

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Me: Hey I'm about to get ready and head over, see you in a bit.

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*If date is 2 or less days away, send following text 11am-1pm same day*

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Me: Hey I'll be done working around (insert time two hours before date) then I'll get ready and head over. 730 still good?

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Her: Zomg I want your dick so bad (or she'll just say yeah, that's probably more likely)

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*90 minutes before date*

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Me: Hey I'm about to get ready and head over, see you in a bit.

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This is the general format like 90% of my text interactions follow.

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Ok so you can see that I didn't try to spike her emotions, I didn't try to wait until she's "invested" before asking, I didn't try to be quippy and funny, I just talked like a normal person and moved the convo forward. That's literally all you need to do. I know that I don't need to do anything extra because I came off well on the approach, so my texts will automatically come off well. Assuming I don't do anything that is just wildly outside social norms.

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I feel like there's something else I'm supposed to talk about, but I can't think of it right now. I just wing these posts so maybe I'll come back and make a small edit later.

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Anyway that's it. Below are some examples texts of girls I've gone on dates with. Notice that I don't necessarily follow the format absolutely to the T because each situation is slightly different, but the general flow is mostly the same. Try to stick to it as closely as possible though.

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https://imgur.com/a/8v3N5T2