Trouble maintaining frame after initial success with hookups from dating apps who then start getting flakey/backing off

MrPapasfritas · 2024-07-10T00:30:37+00:00

Struggling with the same. Last girl I dated pulled back and I showed her how needy I was. She eventually ghosted me. I think this happens when you are afraid of losing her because she’s your only or best option currently. That’s why people recommend developing an abundance mentality and dating multiple girls at the same time. Also people recommend meditation to better understand and control emotions.

MrAnonPoster · 2024-07-10T15:19:20+00:00

If you slept with her and she started to pull away it is because to her the sex was "meh".
When the clothes come off, the real you comes out. If what you portrayed does not match the reality, she may still fuck you but she is out. This is why "The Game" is stupid - she bought you based on the ad you put up and failed to deliver (which is why you needed "the game" to get her to begin with)

Short term address the (1).

Realize, most of "expert advice" is wrong. Women can and do go for 30-45 minutes of purely fucking easily. In fact, the same ones who tell you that they are into 10 minute fuck sessions are getting nailed for an hour by the guy they actually go ga-ga over. This means you should be able not to dump your load in 5 minutes. This also means you should have the muscle endurance to be able to even simply thrust for that long. In reality you should be able to do it not just in a missionary or doggie style on your knees but also on you bending over her by bending your knees while she is in a doggie style. This means gym. Yes, gym.
You know you are doing it right if she is ripping the sheets off the bed with her clutching fingers and regardless of how quiet she is you make her wail based on your movement. Thats your marker.
Learn how to recognize the plateau. Keep her there. You want to finish? Tough cookies. Keep. Her. There. She is begging? Keep. Her. There. You cant understand what she is saying? Keep. Her. There.
You were given fingers - use them on her clit while fucking her. Yes, this is why you should have a strong core - you lose the ability to support yourself with your arms in a balanced position.
Oral is just a breather during sex or for foreplay. Ignore the shit that you read - if men were as good with a tongue as they were with fingers they would be typing with their tongue. Same goes for a dick actually. Fingers give you the most play, give her a great sensation and let you catch your breath without stopping
Magic Wand is your friend. Have her use it while you are fucking her. Same goes for a Womanizer.
Super important/highly advanced: women are used to men stopping immediately after they start having an orgasm/have an orgasm. Largely because they (the women) become super sensitive. If you feel you mastered 1-6 - push the edge and continue - she will be bucking and screaming and wailing and swearing but, especially if you manage to make her get off again (which at this time should be a piece of cake), she is going to be all over you months if not years later

Addressing 2 will take a long time and i'm sure it won't be interesting to the readers so i'm going to skip over it.

Throwaway329143 · 2024-07-10T23:41:55+00:00

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Dry_Tune2919 · 2024-07-10T00:03:33+00:00

Go and read 60 years of challenge. You can find a pdf online. It will teach you everything about maintaining frame and everything else

jamesfalken · 2024-07-10T03:41:36+00:00

Sounds like a retention issue. Which is usually related to the sex.

A girl who is flaking on you is showing signs of low interest. Plain and simple. Whether that's before you meet or after you've already fucked. If the sex is good, girls will typically (almost always) invest further after the first date/sex. They'll make your life a lot easier. They will make your access to them a lot easier. After you've fucked her properly you shouldn't need to play any games or worry about any strategies. It's largely don't fuck up game from that point forward and keep fucking her right. I'd start with worrying less about game and strategies and think more about upping your bedroom game.

Beyond that, definitely sounds like you need to improve your inner game and overall vibe (as you said in person game is not strong), ditch the scarcity mindset and not come off needy. It sounds like you are overthinking things. You just need to cultivate some confidence and strong inner game, which will come with more experience and success.

TRTGymBroX · 2024-07-10T10:56:11+00:00

You guys think that some techniques or rizz will solve your problems. Anything but actually look in the mirror to see the guy who is causing all the problems.

Title	Trouble maintaining frame after initial success with hookups from dating apps who then start getting flakey/backing off
Author	Throwaway329143
Upvotes	6
Comments	10
Date	July 9, 2024 11:49 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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