Unsuccessful Date

ThatDarnSmell · 2026-01-02T18:38:54+00:00

You went into the date with a defeated mindset that she already didn't like you. What was the point of even going if you don't think highly of yourself or of her?

Annual_Criticism8660 · 2026-01-02T18:41:23+00:00

Why wouldn’t you get food with her if you were hungry?

Why did you go in already negative? She travelled a distance to see you… You need to fix that before you go on dates in the future.

Natural_Elevator_829 · 2026-01-02T19:16:37+00:00

self-fulfilling prophecy from OP, he’s had unsuccessful dates in the past so he just naturally ASSUMES the rest will go bad too

this is a TERRIBLE mindset

Budget-Kick822 · 2026-01-02T18:45:20+00:00

Unless you're catfishing why would you ever assume a girl who has agreed to a date with you wouldn't be attracted to you? Especially one that messaged you first and travelled down to you.

Inside-Respond-7442 · 2026-01-02T19:02:11+00:00

You were a big baby. All of us act like big babies at some point so try not doing it again.

SalesAficionado · 2026-01-02T22:25:38+00:00

Defeatist mindset. You need to see a therapist.

Doctor__Finance · 2026-01-02T18:47:20+00:00

Bro apart from the mindset, you seem like you did not escalate at all. And "message me when you get there" mistake was something I did a lot in the past. She took time to meet you, came to your territory, probably was ready to kiss -at least. Nonetheless, you did not show any intention, and she might took it as an insult, or maybe thought you lack of experiences, which is telling already.

PrincessCuteButt · 2026-01-02T20:49:23+00:00

You didn't look at her or smile at her? Of course you'll get rejected. Come on. That is something you could do differently in the future.

ComplexTell25 · 2026-01-02T20:59:54+00:00

She's ded

pie-mart · 2026-01-07T03:43:49+00:00

Sounded like a boring date tbh. As a woman we go on millions of coffee dates and always end up talking to guys about the same things every single time.

It becomes a revolving door of blurred faces and endless coffee and walking and talking about life.

I might as well just become a philosopher with the amount lf talking about life I do with men.

It isn't necessarily your fault. The dates are just tired and used up cuz everyone does them. Walk. Coffee. Talk. Its every guy who suggests this and they are ALLA THE SAME.

Since yall are strangers it just ends up being an ok date with another guy who has a basic job and basic guy interests. There is no emotional attachment nor any need to do it again.

Unless yall meshed super well, why would she go on ANOTHER ok enough date with another guy?

Guys end up dating and think "this date wasnt bad" and thus expect another one. But we women go "oh, another first date that was exactly the same as the 300 previous ones"

We only care and remember the really good dates and the really awful dates. And guys, for some reason are masters at creating the most banal and uneventful dates because yall care about creating the cheapest and most low effort dates on your end. (Not cuz im trying to make yall feel bad cuz I get it. You are paying and planning and it can become tiresome) but then for us yall all end up on the same page ablut what a low effort, just getting to know you, cheap date is. Therefore all of you, loke 90% of yall end up taking all women on exactly the same date.

Title	Unsuccessful Date
Author	Inside-Respond-7442
Upvotes	0
Comments	68
Date	January 2, 2026 6:29 PM UTC (6 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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