So this is a very personal, random thought i had about my anecdotal EXP,

I dated for about 4 years, when we broke up i guess we still liked eavh other but were too far incompatible to continue,

I will be honest that i miss not being in the dating market and being in a secured and safe position, no constant being on the hunt etc.,

However i realized a distinct advantage, when you are still missing/like someone else who is clearly unavailable/you don't want back, you start to rank the other options much lower, thus you become much more uncaring about the girl you are sarging as an individual, and can play thw numbers game/statistics much better,

What i mean is, when you get rejected you won't care much, if it's a success it won't be a big deal, the results become much more stable, your frame becomes stronger because you invest much less emotionally,

Sure if you are after a GF, it will fail and suck miserably, but if you are not after an LTR, this might be a golden tool and a way to weaponize suffering, and your longing for X person who is no longer available, and instead of only taking the negative,

Making of your lemons some lemonade, it might suck having oneitis, but at least in the meanwhile you can try to use it to your own advantage