What do you respond when they flake?

2020-02-09T19:04:21+00:00

Try to give them the benefit of the doubt. There’s always tomorrow. If the flaking is recurring, maybe ask yourself are you investing too much.

ClearZeroGuy80 · 2020-02-09T18:58:34+00:00

On to the next one. If they come back, whatever.

sexualdream · 2020-02-10T05:31:25+00:00

I would have done the same thing, I might even add "No problem, if u still wanna go next time, let me know". Don't say anything rude because u might see her again. Someone flaked me a few years ago and I said something rude, but we have the same circle of friends so I still see her at parties and it gets awkward everytime.

dirty4most · 2020-02-11T18:52:06+00:00

ON TO THE NEXT! FLAKE MEANS FLAKE. BYE!

pureresilience11 · 2020-02-10T00:03:36+00:00

stack more dates

simple as that

thedudesmashes · 2020-02-10T00:55:40+00:00

Just acknowledge it, play it off as not a big deal, then move on and let them initate the next meet up and conversation .

fvckCrosshairs · 2020-02-10T07:18:26+00:00

doesn't matter, just make sure to end it on a positive note, you don't want to show that she's the only girl you're talking to and you have more options.

bidnessmayneh · 2020-02-11T09:21:02+00:00

if they're into you they'll almost always give you an alternative date, even if it's a broad one. they'll always give that option. like "sorry I cant make it to this cuz of XYZ, but we can always meet next week!"

so yeah I think you played it right by not begging for a reschedule and acting like it didn't mean much

blueidiot314 · 2020-02-09T19:41:51+00:00

Sometimes they just ignore your texts and calls instead of formally breaking up, many times when you think things are going well. Tired of these immature chicks but they make up the majority

dibdab5 · 2020-02-09T23:04:32+00:00

Sucks man been there just got cut contact and move on.

EddieWattz · 2020-02-09T21:00:44+00:00

Every flake I’ve gotten, regardless of how genuine the excuse sounded, has always resulted in them evaporating. I think it’s the clearest sign of interest. In my case, these have all been from online dating. 2 was after what I thought was pretty amazing first dates with kiss closes and escalation ( flaked on plans for second date at last minute ), 3 have been flakes on plans to even meet for a first date, after 2 weeks of daily snapchating

I’ve tried the “shrug it off” method, and we just ended up keep talking for almost a month in each case before I just ghosted them in return.

I’d like to say I’m a solid 7-8, pretty damn good at conversation, dress with style, don’t smoke / drink, wear quality cologne, work out, take them to activity dates like bowling ect. I feel like I’m a genuine catch ( as everyone should ), so it puzzles me why apparently women seem to pass.

I think online dating doesn’t work well for anyone of color ( I’m mixed ), atleast that’s been my take so far

Title	What do you respond when they flake?
Author	shindo_arata
Upvotes	5
Comments	19
Date	February 9, 2020 6:57 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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