What does "we probably shouldn't take our pants off" actually mean?

LawrenceCobb · 2019-11-04T13:28:15+00:00

Dont take their pants off. Dont take your pants off.

PiperBigBell · 2019-11-04T14:59:46+00:00

If you're getting told that by a girl who you're foreplaying with you probably messed up way before then. You probably asked her a direct question like, "can we do this,?". No. Never ask girls yes or no questions.

You should be dirty talking in her ear, teasing her and backing off, hyping her up on how fun whatever you want to do with her would be. If you're reading body language you should be able to anticipate where the no might come in. Never get told no by a girl in bed. Stop before then.

No in a girls mind symbolizes a decision she should stick to. Once a girl tells me a hard no to anything I can tell she's less attracted after that. She can feel herself being less compliant. Which turns her off. If I said no before why am I saying yes now? Get better at escalation.

Atriev · 2019-11-04T13:39:34+00:00

I say that when I’m disqualifying the sex. It’s not a beginner game concept.

2019-11-04T14:47:48+00:00

They probably aren’t comfortable having sex, it happens. Just play it cool and do what they’re fine with

rich_god · 2019-11-04T13:30:44+00:00

"Why ? What are the risks ?"

If you feel confusion, ask questions. Assertivity is also being able to express that you don't understand something, that you don't know. Assertivity is NOT knowing everything. If you don't know if a girl wants to be touched, ask her. If you don't know if she likes to be touched deeper or not, or faster, ask her. Clarity is security.

That doesn't mean you have to ask everything, some things are better left ambiguous, because that how you build excitement : surprise and security. Clarity and ambiguity.

If you're in "serious" mode, like you feel she's a bit insecure and needs to be reassured, just bring clarity, and reassurance : "we don't have to, and it's fine if we keep our pants, but I don't think we should or shouldn't do anything other than what we want."

If you're in a more playful mood and it's a way of teasing you, I would go with something like "Well, I really don't like wearing pants you know".

merehot27 · 2019-11-04T13:28:07+00:00

It means exactly what it says. You are reading way too much into this. The best advice to live by if you are in a sexual situation is if someone tells you something verbally take it as that what it means. If you are that unsure ask the person for clarification.

Umbran_scale · 2019-11-04T14:54:38+00:00

Sort of the same knee-jerk response when a girl says, "No, stop. that makes me horny." The only words that went into the guys head at that moment is; 'No, stop.' to which he then stops.

always-correct- · 2019-11-04T21:45:20+00:00

Just saying, girls would never turn sex down from you if you are good looking.

Women never turn down attractive men, as a matter of fact, a lot of women will actually be the ones who approach and initiate with a hot male in the first place.

Title	What does "we probably shouldn't take our pants off" actually mean?
Author	MrNiceBrone
Upvotes	1
Comments	10
Date	November 4, 2019 1:11 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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