What's a good approach to this?

Certain_Process_7657 · 2025-09-29T19:45:03+00:00

People make time for things and people that are important to them. She's not into you bro. Move on and find someone who is.

When a woman is genuinely interested she won't make petty excuses like "not that close" lol

Illustrious_Size610 · 2025-09-29T19:19:10+00:00

Your mistake is that you are not leading, you are asking her to lead and women want you to lead.

Leading is about being decisive about what you want to do and either she joins or she doesn’t. What you are doing instead is to ask her yo tell you what you can or cannot do.

Instead of saying “i’ll call her because i want to” like a decisive man does, you are saying “does she want me to call her or not” like an insecure indecisive man.

It’s not her job to tell you what you have to do, she is not your mother.. You are an adult. Do what you want, her job is to accept it or reject it, and your job is to continue doing what you want regardless of her acceptance or rejections.

Same with a date. It’s not her job to tell you if this saturday or next week is better, hence why she tells you i don’t know which is an indirect way of saying “decide yourself worth absolute conviction”.

It’s your job to be decisive and invite her to a definite plan this saturday that you will do with or without her. If she joins great, if not she misses out.

But you suggest the plan with the full conviction that it’s something you will do regardless of her answer, because if it sounds even just a little bit like:

“so we do this on saturday, ok??” then you are still not leading, you are atill asking, negotiating and basing your plans on what she indicates.

You are not showing leaders ship thr moment you begin to negotiate or ask her to collaborate.

You need to be grounded and leading your life instead of wait for a woman to make a decision about you for you to act one way or another

LalaLand856 · 2025-09-29T23:56:28+00:00

I would take this as she’s not interested. If she really wanted to, she’d find a way. The way she keeps talking about money, it’s almost like she’s asking for you to say that you’ll cover all costs (food, transportation, etc.). I think she’s just avoiding you and making excuses. Do yourself a favor and move on. You don’t deserve that.

Kierenbrowncoach · 2025-09-30T09:52:51+00:00

Right now she’s feeding you polite excuses, not real obstacles. Notice the pattern: every time you solve one problem, she invents another. First it was money, then it was transportation, then it was vague “I wouldn’t know.” That’s not a woman dying to see you. That’s a woman keeping the conversation soft but noncommittal. If she wanted to meet, she’d be suggesting alternatives. She’s not.

Here’s the move: stop negotiating. You’re not her travel agent, and you’re not auditioning. You already asked her out. She knows you’re interested. Now pull back and give her space to invest. Instead of trying to pin her down for Saturday, text something playful and final: “Alright, you let me know when you actually want to see me.” Then drop it. No overexplaining, no begging, no trying to sell her on a park date.

If she’s genuinely into you, she’ll reach out when she’s ready. If she’s not, she’ll drift off, and that tells you all you need to know without wasting another week. By pulling your energy back, you flip the frame, you’re no longer the guy chasing, you’re the guy she has to win time with.

As for calling her, don’t. Right now she’s not showing the interest level that deserves your energy. Calls and long texts are rewards for women who show up, not ones who dodge. Protect your time and make her feel the absence of your attention. That’s what will either spark her back into action or confirm she’s not serious.

Stop chasing. Let her decide if she wants back in. And while you’re at it, keep your options open with other women. Never hinge your energy on someone who’s lukewarm. For more sharp strategies to handle situations like this, check out my podcast The Dark Algorithm of Love from the link in my bio/profile.

ChickenFettuccini · 2025-09-29T20:15:43+00:00

As a woman 100% she keeps bringing up money and her budget because she wants you to offer to pay for her transportation or cover the whole date. Which is normal and I think you should have gotten the hint and offered. My dates will always send me an uber or cover the date

Title	What's a good approach to this?
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Date	September 29, 2025 7:07 PM UTC (10 months ago)
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