There is a popular claim that Macho Alpha behaviour is the way to go, anything that deviates is deemed Beta and an Error in the seduction dance.

I highly object to this, as any relation is fundamentally a negotiation. And all negotiations need to be tailored to the parties involved, not some abstract ideals. Therefore, there will be times when "Beta behaviour" is objectively strategic and admissible.

1. Think from her point of view

As men we need to take initiative and lead the frame. However, this does not give us freedom to do whatever we want. We need to take into account the girls feelings.

Always ask yourself, if she accepts my proposition, what feelings will that induce in her?

Start thinking like this and you will see how little breathing room a lot of the advice out there leaves to the girl.

2. Think long term

This is crucial when we escalate fast. Girls might feel they play into your script too much, letting them strategically win some battles can ease the whole process.

This can vary from acting a little bit too gentleman like or be a little bit more nice to her than usual.

Disclaimer: this assumes a fast dating model, is not general advice.

3. Cultural norms

Fast escalation is contextual to the culture the girl grew up. If she is from a big city, it might mean 2 hours and then straight to home. If she is from a reserved culture, that might be 3 dates.

To enter the "adventure" mindframe, we just need to be a little bit faster and different than her culture. But always with respect to her culture.

Trying the 2 hour bounceback on the reserved girl will need to nowhere. Always calibrate!

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